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It seems like my recent image "Backstabbing Chit Chat" and "To Trust or Not" journal entry is connected to this image here. It has the same themes: Betrayal, Lies, False Friends, Hurt feelings.
Friends are hard to lose, even if it is you who is being pushed away. You have a good friend, someone who has been with you for years, but slowly starts pushing you away because of something that you cannot understand, something that they blame you for but yet you have no idea what they are talking about. You try to figure out what you did wrong, you talk and ask them what happened that made them push you away. You want to try to keep the bond of friendship together with this person, but all they do is tell you:
- to "fuck off" and they hang up on you.
- or pretend that you dont know what you are talking about.
- or refuse to tell you what went wrong and pretend like nothing happened.
You dont get a straight answer and you are left with your thoughts, trying to figure out what you did and what could have offended them. Maybe something small that they feel uncomfortable about you, but yet no one else minds at all. Maybe a miss communication that happened, but you are unsure what it was. Maybe you offended them about something you did, but you have no idea what it is, and if you do and want to explain it to them, they flick you off.
A good friend understands you, helps you, and if you get them mad, they tell you what is the matter and you try your best to fix the problem. Honesty and Trust are only a few words that bind a good friendship together. Both parties need to be open and honest about each other if they wish to get along for a long time. Blaming someone for something that they dont remember doing or can easily be explainable and fixed is childish, especially if that person does not tell the other WHAT that problem was and blow it out of proportion.
Friends can easily misjudge one another. They think that they are turning into something that the other feels is stupid and unreasonable. They get mad at that person, shut them out and ignore them completely while the other tries to explain his/her actions in a friendly gesture, but is ignored, misjudged and pushed aside. It is easy to throw problems and ideas out of proportion and judge that person only on that. In order for one to understand, they need to talk face to face and explain everything out. Everyone is different in many ways, but some dont understand those differences. Sometimes, a friend would get very angry about life that they go to the nearest friend they have and just vent on them, telling that friend that he or she is the problem with the world because they exist and should just be pushed away...
What do you say to something like that?
People need friends in order to survive in this world. One can easily lose themselves in this hellish world and need someone to help them show the way out; a helpful hand with a warm and welcoming smile. A friend will be there for you when you are down. A friend will try to be on the level with you. A friend trusts you to the fullest. A friend helps you fix problems. A friend will tell you what is wrong when there is a problem. A friend will not ignore you and push you away for something that has been blown out of proposition or has not yet been explained from your side.
Honesty; its rare to find these days in people. Its always "first glance, first judge". People judge others easily over the smallest things. I am not going into that part since it is already explained in BackStabbingChitChat ( http://www.furaffinity.net/view/429632/ ).
Probably from all this ranting, something similar has happened to me and I am trying to get it off my chest by drawing everything out. I did lose a good friend, maybe the only furry friend and artist I known personally. So losing someone like that who did teach me a small history of furry art is hard on me. Its like loosing a teacher and a good friend.
I hate loosing friends, but it is always ended from them misjudging my and/or my art, lies and backstabbing. Heh. I should be used to such violence, but there is no such thing, right?
No, Im not babbling and no, I am not saying "pitty me", so dont go in that direction. I’m just venting and trying to figure things out as I type.
- Ookami Kemono
Shutdown Silence © 2007 Alex Cockburn
Friends are hard to lose, even if it is you who is being pushed away. You have a good friend, someone who has been with you for years, but slowly starts pushing you away because of something that you cannot understand, something that they blame you for but yet you have no idea what they are talking about. You try to figure out what you did wrong, you talk and ask them what happened that made them push you away. You want to try to keep the bond of friendship together with this person, but all they do is tell you:
- to "fuck off" and they hang up on you.
- or pretend that you dont know what you are talking about.
- or refuse to tell you what went wrong and pretend like nothing happened.
You dont get a straight answer and you are left with your thoughts, trying to figure out what you did and what could have offended them. Maybe something small that they feel uncomfortable about you, but yet no one else minds at all. Maybe a miss communication that happened, but you are unsure what it was. Maybe you offended them about something you did, but you have no idea what it is, and if you do and want to explain it to them, they flick you off.
A good friend understands you, helps you, and if you get them mad, they tell you what is the matter and you try your best to fix the problem. Honesty and Trust are only a few words that bind a good friendship together. Both parties need to be open and honest about each other if they wish to get along for a long time. Blaming someone for something that they dont remember doing or can easily be explainable and fixed is childish, especially if that person does not tell the other WHAT that problem was and blow it out of proportion.
Friends can easily misjudge one another. They think that they are turning into something that the other feels is stupid and unreasonable. They get mad at that person, shut them out and ignore them completely while the other tries to explain his/her actions in a friendly gesture, but is ignored, misjudged and pushed aside. It is easy to throw problems and ideas out of proportion and judge that person only on that. In order for one to understand, they need to talk face to face and explain everything out. Everyone is different in many ways, but some dont understand those differences. Sometimes, a friend would get very angry about life that they go to the nearest friend they have and just vent on them, telling that friend that he or she is the problem with the world because they exist and should just be pushed away...
What do you say to something like that?
People need friends in order to survive in this world. One can easily lose themselves in this hellish world and need someone to help them show the way out; a helpful hand with a warm and welcoming smile. A friend will be there for you when you are down. A friend will try to be on the level with you. A friend trusts you to the fullest. A friend helps you fix problems. A friend will tell you what is wrong when there is a problem. A friend will not ignore you and push you away for something that has been blown out of proposition or has not yet been explained from your side.
Honesty; its rare to find these days in people. Its always "first glance, first judge". People judge others easily over the smallest things. I am not going into that part since it is already explained in BackStabbingChitChat ( http://www.furaffinity.net/view/429632/ ).
Probably from all this ranting, something similar has happened to me and I am trying to get it off my chest by drawing everything out. I did lose a good friend, maybe the only furry friend and artist I known personally. So losing someone like that who did teach me a small history of furry art is hard on me. Its like loosing a teacher and a good friend.
I hate loosing friends, but it is always ended from them misjudging my and/or my art, lies and backstabbing. Heh. I should be used to such violence, but there is no such thing, right?
No, Im not babbling and no, I am not saying "pitty me", so dont go in that direction. I’m just venting and trying to figure things out as I type.
- Ookami Kemono
Shutdown Silence © 2007 Alex Cockburn
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Gorgeous.
And this is exactly what happened to me in seventh grade.
Although that was years ago, I still feel the pain from that year.
My best friend of five years broke off our friendship because she decided that I was too fat, too stupid, or something like that, to be friends with her. She was 'too good for me.'
She turned into a bitch, ridiculed me for a long time, and decided to try to get people against me in my school.
Worst year of my life there.
Funny, because at the end of that year, I did the best schoolwork I had ever done.
Nice piece.
And this is exactly what happened to me in seventh grade.
Although that was years ago, I still feel the pain from that year.
My best friend of five years broke off our friendship because she decided that I was too fat, too stupid, or something like that, to be friends with her. She was 'too good for me.'
She turned into a bitch, ridiculed me for a long time, and decided to try to get people against me in my school.
Worst year of my life there.
Funny, because at the end of that year, I did the best schoolwork I had ever done.
Nice piece.
I can relate to this so well man
I never fully could understand why he did this to me. One of my best friends since middle school that I was very close to and even the summer after we graduated high school admitted his bisexuality to me and we spent a lot of time well screwing. I lost my virginity to him. Though looking back I saw he was using me for sex cause he wouldn't stay to get me off he would leave to smoke or something after he came and he would never kiss or cuddle. It was a fuck buddy thing and I didn't know any better he was my first and I had no prior experience to tell me what was happening was wrong. Well eventually though I stopped sleeping with him and forgave him and we avoided growing distant he understood like a friend should and didn't really say much else about it. Everything was back to normal until one day we I was trying to go to school before I dropped out (couldn't keep up with it) I found a boyfriend who to this day I regret dating but i was happy with him at that time he was awesome and eventually I came out of the closet to the people at college and He called me that night hearing I came out and was asking me to take it back and say it was a joke begging me to say it was a joke he said he was afraid people would know he was bi or think he was gay since he was like my best friend there. I told him I couldn't take it back and Im glad that I was free of the stress of being in the closet all those years and not to worry I told nobody about him. The next day hes turned his back on me I have to put up with him fwaping me in the back of the head calling me a faggot and a flamer, picking on me getting all his other friends together to make my life hell because I was gay... I don't get it
How can someone I had known that long someone who knew me and was one of my best friends SOMEONE WHO TOOK MY VIRGINITY Freak out and suddenly overnight hate me for my sexuality. It hurt more than when I realized he was using me for sex, and we made up on that, and eventually me and him did make up and he did apologize, but our friendship can never be the same again because of all that and to this day I still hurt a little over it knowing someone can know you that long and be your friend that long and then even admit they are the same way you are and take your virginity then hate you because you came out about yourself
I'll cut it off there, the more I talk about it the more It hurts.
I never fully could understand why he did this to me. One of my best friends since middle school that I was very close to and even the summer after we graduated high school admitted his bisexuality to me and we spent a lot of time well screwing. I lost my virginity to him. Though looking back I saw he was using me for sex cause he wouldn't stay to get me off he would leave to smoke or something after he came and he would never kiss or cuddle. It was a fuck buddy thing and I didn't know any better he was my first and I had no prior experience to tell me what was happening was wrong. Well eventually though I stopped sleeping with him and forgave him and we avoided growing distant he understood like a friend should and didn't really say much else about it. Everything was back to normal until one day we I was trying to go to school before I dropped out (couldn't keep up with it) I found a boyfriend who to this day I regret dating but i was happy with him at that time he was awesome and eventually I came out of the closet to the people at college and He called me that night hearing I came out and was asking me to take it back and say it was a joke begging me to say it was a joke he said he was afraid people would know he was bi or think he was gay since he was like my best friend there. I told him I couldn't take it back and Im glad that I was free of the stress of being in the closet all those years and not to worry I told nobody about him. The next day hes turned his back on me I have to put up with him fwaping me in the back of the head calling me a faggot and a flamer, picking on me getting all his other friends together to make my life hell because I was gay... I don't get it
How can someone I had known that long someone who knew me and was one of my best friends SOMEONE WHO TOOK MY VIRGINITY Freak out and suddenly overnight hate me for my sexuality. It hurt more than when I realized he was using me for sex, and we made up on that, and eventually me and him did make up and he did apologize, but our friendship can never be the same again because of all that and to this day I still hurt a little over it knowing someone can know you that long and be your friend that long and then even admit they are the same way you are and take your virginity then hate you because you came out about yourself
I'll cut it off there, the more I talk about it the more It hurts.
While you say don't pity me, I won't, but I know the situation very, very well. It's brought me to be more self reliant and while I'm still very open, I demand someone earn my trust before they can know me as well as some.
Got a friend here if you wanna get to know them. Lord knows I play the role well I'm told among those who've gotten to know me a little. Just prod if you ever do need someone to talk or just vent to, I KNOW I'm a good listener at least. ;)
Got a friend here if you wanna get to know them. Lord knows I play the role well I'm told among those who've gotten to know me a little. Just prod if you ever do need someone to talk or just vent to, I KNOW I'm a good listener at least. ;)
*hugs* Hope you don't mind that.
It's strange, I've had a similar thing happen to me (probably not as intensely as your situation, I admit)...a friend for a long time just stopped talking to me one day. That was all. He cut off all connection to me, with no explanation given.
It's strange because *I'M* the one who feels bad about it; I feel like I did something wrong, when I know it wasn't my fault. People change, friends change, and that's just how it is. Sometimes I wish I knew the reason for it, because there are many floating about it my head and they all seem to end with me being an idiot.
And in the end I have to ponder...if a good friend of yours is just going to cut you off with no explanation and no reason given...were they really that good a friend to begin with? And I think that hurts worst of all.
It's strange, I've had a similar thing happen to me (probably not as intensely as your situation, I admit)...a friend for a long time just stopped talking to me one day. That was all. He cut off all connection to me, with no explanation given.
It's strange because *I'M* the one who feels bad about it; I feel like I did something wrong, when I know it wasn't my fault. People change, friends change, and that's just how it is. Sometimes I wish I knew the reason for it, because there are many floating about it my head and they all seem to end with me being an idiot.
And in the end I have to ponder...if a good friend of yours is just going to cut you off with no explanation and no reason given...were they really that good a friend to begin with? And I think that hurts worst of all.
my first serious friend, i had a similar experience to an above post... he was a guy i ended up sleeping with tons, but he was selfish...leaving me to my own when he was done...then i developed an actual relationship with someone else, a loving relationship, and he just disappeared, i haven't heard from him in almost 6 years...
another time, me and my boyfriend (now ex) had a friend that, she was a nice girl, really... then one day she flipped out, went all gospel on my mate, damning us, and i tried to forgive her, tried to find out what happened... i got one response to one email, she seemed to want ot talk, but i never heard from her again...been almost 2 years since that...
in the end, we can only do what our heart demands, and it is alright to weep for things beyond your control...but we cannot let them ruin us... to cry for the rain will not stop it from falling, but add to the torrent instead.
another time, me and my boyfriend (now ex) had a friend that, she was a nice girl, really... then one day she flipped out, went all gospel on my mate, damning us, and i tried to forgive her, tried to find out what happened... i got one response to one email, she seemed to want ot talk, but i never heard from her again...been almost 2 years since that...
in the end, we can only do what our heart demands, and it is alright to weep for things beyond your control...but we cannot let them ruin us... to cry for the rain will not stop it from falling, but add to the torrent instead.
You will eventually have said everything I had ever thought worth saying. I could stop talking and quote you for the rest of my life.
What you've described, though, is passive aggression, and it's not something a friend does. It's an escape mechanism and when they trigger it, it's a lost cause.
Passive Aggressive rears its head the most discernably when, no matter what you say, they will turn it against you and turn you either into an aggressor or a wanna-be victim.
NOTE: Someone most often blames you for trying to play the victim when they're playing the victim.
I'm sure you've heard it. They're attacking you with everything you've got; you try to say something nice to calm them down, and either they will DRILL at any fault they find, or they will ask you the trademarked old-standby of passive-aggression: "What's THAT supposed to mean!?"
(This is code for: "I need you to say something that I can more easily turn into ammunition, so keep talking and I'm sure something will come up.")
they will tirelessly drudge up everything you've ever done and every mistake you've ever made--even some you haven't--and blow off your defenses by pointing out contradictions.
THE FACT IS: There is no way to calm passive aggressive behavior. You can either APPEASE the person by giving in to their demands (if this is a 'blackmail' type argument, where they'll keep going until you give them what they want) in which they are blatantly manipulating you--or you can DEFEAT them, but that is extremely hard and horribly destructive.
If someone does this to you, though, being critical, difficult, condescending, nitpicking, and argumentative about the slightest things, THAT PERSON IS NOT YOUR FRIEND. If they're family, they shouldn't be. CUT THE TIE. NOW. They'll only hurt you more in the end; if you stop it before they gain even more momentum, they'll have nothing left to throw at you.
"Bye. Have a nice life." is possibly one of the most dumbstriking final retorts to an argument you can make, and they deserve nothing less. Let them eat their words. with no one to listen to them, all they'll have is their own anger to stew in.
What you've described, though, is passive aggression, and it's not something a friend does. It's an escape mechanism and when they trigger it, it's a lost cause.
Passive Aggressive rears its head the most discernably when, no matter what you say, they will turn it against you and turn you either into an aggressor or a wanna-be victim.
NOTE: Someone most often blames you for trying to play the victim when they're playing the victim.
I'm sure you've heard it. They're attacking you with everything you've got; you try to say something nice to calm them down, and either they will DRILL at any fault they find, or they will ask you the trademarked old-standby of passive-aggression: "What's THAT supposed to mean!?"
(This is code for: "I need you to say something that I can more easily turn into ammunition, so keep talking and I'm sure something will come up.")
they will tirelessly drudge up everything you've ever done and every mistake you've ever made--even some you haven't--and blow off your defenses by pointing out contradictions.
THE FACT IS: There is no way to calm passive aggressive behavior. You can either APPEASE the person by giving in to their demands (if this is a 'blackmail' type argument, where they'll keep going until you give them what they want) in which they are blatantly manipulating you--or you can DEFEAT them, but that is extremely hard and horribly destructive.
If someone does this to you, though, being critical, difficult, condescending, nitpicking, and argumentative about the slightest things, THAT PERSON IS NOT YOUR FRIEND. If they're family, they shouldn't be. CUT THE TIE. NOW. They'll only hurt you more in the end; if you stop it before they gain even more momentum, they'll have nothing left to throw at you.
"Bye. Have a nice life." is possibly one of the most dumbstriking final retorts to an argument you can make, and they deserve nothing less. Let them eat their words. with no one to listen to them, all they'll have is their own anger to stew in.
You see, I cant really do that. I cant flick someone off like that. I cant yell in their face and tell them that they are wrong. They hate something about me or something that I said that was harmless, but they speak to me like I did something very wrong and selfish. Sometimes, I dont remember what I say to them and that sqrews me in the end.
I want to have friends, not enemies. But it seems I have more enemies than friends, so sometimes they are the ones I hold close. growing up without a good social life is not fun. You find yourself alone in your room every day, wondeirng what happened and why people do not except you for what/who you are. I cant go around saying I am a Furry Artist or "Furry", because that will freak people out. I draw what I draw because I enjoy it. Other's dont see it that way. If someone has nothing else but Yiff in their sketch book ( thank god I dont ) and they show it to someone, what would that person feel or think? The Artist gets judged and will be "marked" as a pervert. Sorry, I am trailing off coarse.
I dont think I am the victum, just me. I am who I am. I am a nice person who loves to give, hardly recieve. Sometimes I give too much that it hurts me in the end, but I always think that I am doing a good deed and It will come back to me in a positive way. I just want to make people happy, period.
I want to have friends, not enemies. But it seems I have more enemies than friends, so sometimes they are the ones I hold close. growing up without a good social life is not fun. You find yourself alone in your room every day, wondeirng what happened and why people do not except you for what/who you are. I cant go around saying I am a Furry Artist or "Furry", because that will freak people out. I draw what I draw because I enjoy it. Other's dont see it that way. If someone has nothing else but Yiff in their sketch book ( thank god I dont ) and they show it to someone, what would that person feel or think? The Artist gets judged and will be "marked" as a pervert. Sorry, I am trailing off coarse.
I dont think I am the victum, just me. I am who I am. I am a nice person who loves to give, hardly recieve. Sometimes I give too much that it hurts me in the end, but I always think that I am doing a good deed and It will come back to me in a positive way. I just want to make people happy, period.
Hey you responded to someone, nifty.
You dont need to resort to the same aggression they do, but at least talk back for yourself, even if still in a polite, controled way. Stand up for yourself a bit, that might send the message that people shouldnt fuck with you so much.
This sounds harsh, but your social life is what it is by your own decisions. Really you need to start finding people with some more stable emotions, and try not to let people walk over you. You have to find that happy medium.
You dont need to resort to the same aggression they do, but at least talk back for yourself, even if still in a polite, controled way. Stand up for yourself a bit, that might send the message that people shouldnt fuck with you so much.
This sounds harsh, but your social life is what it is by your own decisions. Really you need to start finding people with some more stable emotions, and try not to let people walk over you. You have to find that happy medium.
I have to say, one of the things that really impresses me about your art isn't just hte picture itself, but the inspiration and the story behind it. While other people have like... "Look, I draw pr0n, it's teh sex!" you have these really impressive explainations for your pieces, and I find it makes the picture that much more meaningful and powerful.
Erf. Your drawings and your descriptions are as powerful as ever.
I don't know if I can relate here. Closest I've gotten to something like this is when someone in school gave me a dirty look because of a rumor at school. He wasn't a close friend and he later apologized.
I do pray you find some good friends in this life. They can be hard to come by, especially if you're not much of a socialite.
Keep drawing, man. You have an excellent gift for capturing such deep emotions.
I don't know if I can relate here. Closest I've gotten to something like this is when someone in school gave me a dirty look because of a rumor at school. He wasn't a close friend and he later apologized.
I do pray you find some good friends in this life. They can be hard to come by, especially if you're not much of a socialite.
Keep drawing, man. You have an excellent gift for capturing such deep emotions.
I've been mulling over this piece all day, since what I wrote before. I think I ought to give you the same piece of advice my godfather gave me, when my boyfriend dumped me. He told me that when we are dumped, then yes, it hurts incredibly; but it is ultimately the other person's loss at least as much as ours, and usually more.
I'm not going to comment on your friend, because I don't know them and I don't want it to seem like I'm busting on them, which I'm not. I understand your unhappiness... I think really the only thing to do is work through it in any way you can (if drawing pictures and sharing them (or not) helps you, then do that, by all means.) Also, what really helped me was hanging out with friends, and listening to cheerful music. But you do whatever helps you. In the end, the best cure is time.
I hope you feel better soon.
I'm not going to comment on your friend, because I don't know them and I don't want it to seem like I'm busting on them, which I'm not. I understand your unhappiness... I think really the only thing to do is work through it in any way you can (if drawing pictures and sharing them (or not) helps you, then do that, by all means.) Also, what really helped me was hanging out with friends, and listening to cheerful music. But you do whatever helps you. In the end, the best cure is time.
I hope you feel better soon.
I've known that feeling a few times. From kindergarten to high school, I've had "friends" turn their backs on me after assuring we were best buddies. I've let a few people down too in that respect, I know.
Sometimes it was because they didn't want to admit being my friends, because it was embarrassing since I wasn't popular. Sometimes it was because I was hard to associate with.
In my case I can sum it up, looking back, with them probably just being confused in life like me. And we were all young then, it's hard to be brave when you're young, feel dependent and weak and the line between hunters and prey is thin but clear.
Even later as I grew up, I've stopped seeing friends because I didn't have the insights, or the energy, to find out why it was so hard seeing them. This all my case, once more, and not a comment on anyone else's situation. I was a miserable kid and hanging out with someone constantly miserable is hard work when you're just a kid yourself.
I've come to see drifting away from friends as a natural way of life. Some of them drift from me, some I drift from. Some of us drift back together. In some cases, especially now that I'm older, braver and more comfortable with myself and life, I fight a bit because I feel I want them in my life even if they can be hard to deal with a lot of times.
I have a friend who's like a sister to me, we've known each other for ten years, and we don't love each other all the time but we're still friends. We both have our issues and hangups, but we know them quite well by now. We've come to the point when we notice if we're avoiding a touchy subject, and are far beyond taking out other aggressions on each other.
But I only have few of those friends. Lots of people have dropped off on the way. Either because I couldn't stand them or they couldn't stand me, or because we didn't connect on any level, or because we - at the time - both were too immature to see past our differences.
I've also had friends whose own problems were taken out on me, either via chewing me out or just ribbing me, and mostly the end of the friendship came when I didn't allow that anymore because it made me feel too bad. Another relationship / end to one that's gone both ways. The world is confusing at times and it's not so easy to know who or what you're really mad at.
I'll try not to ramble on too much, and I know this comment is terribly disoriented, but this is something I've given a lot of thought myself. I used to think that you had to agree on lots of things to be friends, that you had to accept all sides of a friend. In a way, I still think you have to accept all of a person. But with a real friend, there's no danger in saying what you don't agree with, no matter how childish or judging it may sound when you say it.
The strength of real friendship is trying to find each other even when the right words don't come your way, and you're simply clumsy as hell in everything you do. I think.
Sometimes it was because they didn't want to admit being my friends, because it was embarrassing since I wasn't popular. Sometimes it was because I was hard to associate with.
In my case I can sum it up, looking back, with them probably just being confused in life like me. And we were all young then, it's hard to be brave when you're young, feel dependent and weak and the line between hunters and prey is thin but clear.
Even later as I grew up, I've stopped seeing friends because I didn't have the insights, or the energy, to find out why it was so hard seeing them. This all my case, once more, and not a comment on anyone else's situation. I was a miserable kid and hanging out with someone constantly miserable is hard work when you're just a kid yourself.
I've come to see drifting away from friends as a natural way of life. Some of them drift from me, some I drift from. Some of us drift back together. In some cases, especially now that I'm older, braver and more comfortable with myself and life, I fight a bit because I feel I want them in my life even if they can be hard to deal with a lot of times.
I have a friend who's like a sister to me, we've known each other for ten years, and we don't love each other all the time but we're still friends. We both have our issues and hangups, but we know them quite well by now. We've come to the point when we notice if we're avoiding a touchy subject, and are far beyond taking out other aggressions on each other.
But I only have few of those friends. Lots of people have dropped off on the way. Either because I couldn't stand them or they couldn't stand me, or because we didn't connect on any level, or because we - at the time - both were too immature to see past our differences.
I've also had friends whose own problems were taken out on me, either via chewing me out or just ribbing me, and mostly the end of the friendship came when I didn't allow that anymore because it made me feel too bad. Another relationship / end to one that's gone both ways. The world is confusing at times and it's not so easy to know who or what you're really mad at.
I'll try not to ramble on too much, and I know this comment is terribly disoriented, but this is something I've given a lot of thought myself. I used to think that you had to agree on lots of things to be friends, that you had to accept all sides of a friend. In a way, I still think you have to accept all of a person. But with a real friend, there's no danger in saying what you don't agree with, no matter how childish or judging it may sound when you say it.
The strength of real friendship is trying to find each other even when the right words don't come your way, and you're simply clumsy as hell in everything you do. I think.
Sometimes it's not even something the person did to get pushed away, but circumstances that were just unluckyness.
My Computer broke for about a week, almost, two. Before I could get my paws on a Laptop. One friend was supportive, for all of a week, then, when I returned, he had become so much closer with the two others, we had all been friends. I had been odd man out before, but's it's a new game now.
I've been forced by them essentially, and they don't see themselves as ignoring me, to find new friends. It hurts, it really does. I felt backstabbed because it wasn't just ditching me, but breaking the promise to wait for me as well.
My Computer broke for about a week, almost, two. Before I could get my paws on a Laptop. One friend was supportive, for all of a week, then, when I returned, he had become so much closer with the two others, we had all been friends. I had been odd man out before, but's it's a new game now.
I've been forced by them essentially, and they don't see themselves as ignoring me, to find new friends. It hurts, it really does. I felt backstabbed because it wasn't just ditching me, but breaking the promise to wait for me as well.
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