⚠️ Warning About Unsafe Commissions: My Experience With Femnem / Femnem_ / “Nem :3”

I would like to share my experience with the avatar creator known as Femnem, Femnem_, and “🌸Nem :3🩵”.
This post is intended solely to warn other members of the furry community about potentially unsafe and highly unprofessional commission practices.

My work with him started when I saw an avatar in VRChat looking almost like my own character (https://www.furaffinity.net/view/15614722/). I decided to try and resolve the conflict and contacted Femnem_ on Discord. Although we both decided that it was not art-theft and just a coincidence, and he offered me a chance to buy that character and/or make a commission specially for me, later I was ghosted by the creator and fell into a bad situation. He never completed the work, renamed my ticket using profanity, closed the ticket, depriving me from the chatlog and then assaulted me via DM, refusing to make a refund. Today was the day PayPal finally closed the case in my favor.


❗ 1. Work Was Never Delivered - the Creator Disappeared After Payment

After paying for my commission:

- we agreed on the scope and timeframe,

- the creator initially responded normally,

- and then completely stopped replying,

- and never delivered any files or results.

❗ 2. Use of Unsafe and Concerning Methods

Several public discussions from other clients mention that this creator:

- asked clients for their VRChat login and password to “upload the avatar directly” into their account.

This practice:

- violates most platform rules,

- puts clients at risk of losing their accounts,

- and is considered extremely unsafe and unacceptable in the community.

While I personally was not asked for my credentials, the fact that this method has been used with other clients is a major red flag.

❗ 3. Possible Copyright & License Violations

The creator used the Mayu (Kemono Feline Avatar) model in the commission.

However, Mayu’s official Terms of Service clearly state:

- the license is non-transferable,

- distributors may not share any files with third parties,

- only the original purchaser may use the files.

I did not purchase the Mayu license myself.

Thus:

- the creator had no right to provide me with those files,

- and even if the avatar had been delivered, I would not have been legally allowed to use it.

This indicates a potential breach of the original creator’s licensing terms.

❗ 4. Highly Unprofessional, Offensive, and Manipulative Behavior

During my communication with the creator, they behaved in an extremely unprofessional and inappropriate manner.

Specifically:

- they renamed my support ticket on their side to an insult (containing the phrase “stupid **cker”),

- used profanity directed at me,

- attempted emotional manipulation, including guilt-tripping and shifting blame,

- tried to shame and belittle me for asking about the progress of my own commission.

This behavior is absolutely unacceptable from anyone offering paid professional services.

❗ 5. Overall Pattern of Concerning Behavior

All in all, my experience includes:

- complete non-delivery of the commission,

- ghosting after payment,

- unsafe account-related practices,

- potential license violations,

- refusal of refunds,

- offensive and toxic communication,

- and a complete lack of professional conduct.

⚠️ Conclusion

I strongly do not recommend commissioning avatars or adopts from users operating under the names:

Femnem / Femnem_ / “🌸Nem :3🩵”

Based on my experience — and the experiences of other community members — their commission practices appear highly unreliable, unsafe, and unprofessional.

📌 A Note to the Community

If you have had similar experiences, please consider sharing them.
The more we talk openly about such cases, the better we can protect each other and maintain a safe and trustworthy commission environment.