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My Thoughts About Relationships/Sex
9 years ago
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I've been thinking a lot about sex recently. And no, not in the way you think I'm thinking it. More in a way of "Will I ever have it" kind of way. You probably don't know this about me, but I am still a virgin. You must be surprised. How can a 20-year-old man still be a virgin? Well, allow me to explain.
I am not a very sociable person, meaning that I don't have a lot of friends. There are a few reasons for this. I'm shy, I don't have much confidence, I'm not a big talker, and I have difficulty expressing my emotions. I also have Asperger's Syndrome which makes it even harder to socialize with other people. That isn't to say I'm not a nice person, I'm very easy to get along with, and I can have fun with a lot of people. But it's just not easy for me to find friends. Let alone a girlfriend. Throughout my teenage years, I've never had a girlfriend. I was always so busy with school, my job and my personal interests that I never even considered a girlfriend. Most of the girls at my work just never really sparked my interest, and I'm generally shy around them. And whenever someone would ask me why I didn't have a girlfriend, I would always say, "I'm too busy for girls." To which they reply, "But you're a teenager. People your age should be going out, dating and kissing." Look, just because teenagers go out on dates doesn't mean that all teens will do it. Most teens just aren't ready for that sort of thing yet, and that's okay. You decide when you're ready to date, not your friends.
Which brings me to the sex. As a teen, I didn't really know a lot about sex. I had to learn much about it as I got older. Why? Well, I was homeschooled for the longest time from fourth grade up until eighth grade. From that point I went to a Christian school, and while I did learn a lot of things, sex education wasn't one of them. We were never taught basic things about sex because as a Christian you're supposed to wait until you're married. That doesn't always work for most teens, but at that time in my life it worked for me. If you look on my Twitter page, you can probably tell I'm a liberal, but I wasn't always like that. Back then, I was really conservative. How conservative? Well, let's just say I used to think that gays were parasites who added nothing. For the longest time, I was so anti-sex that I would be disgusted by people who made sex jokes and talked about sex openly. But since I've gained access to the internet, my conservative views began to decline. I no longer thought sex before marriage was bad, I became more tolerant of homosexuals, and I even started stray away from my religion, going from Christian to agnostic to atheist. And after all that I'm still a virgin. How? Well there's still more to it.
Even though I now know plenty of things about sex, I still haven't had sex yet. I did masturbate a lot in my teen years and I still do to this day, and I seem content with that. But nowadays, it doesn't seem like that's acceptable. A lot of guys feel pressured into having sex because according to mainstream society, men are perverts who want sex all the time regardless if they are in a relationship or married. I don't know about you, but I don't like being stereotyped as a horny, perverted, sex-crazed lunatic. Even though I look at a lot of furry and erotic MLP artwork on Deviantart and Furaffinity, I'm not always horny. Most of the time I don't even think about sex that much because I'm thinking about other things. Music, movies, video games, cars, my job, my family and so on. So for me to be thinking about sex 24/7 is just ludicrous. Besides sex isn't everything, and sex without love is pointless. But that doesn't stop a lot of guys from making one night stands with women. You know what I'm talking about. Guys who talk to women not to form a relationship, but solely to get laid. The players, the womanizers, the "use 'em and lose 'em" types. These are people that really piss me off.
Womanizers, in my view, do not care about the feelings of women. And I know it seems like an SJW thing of me to say but hear me out on this one. Womanizers are not interested in forming relationships with women, they only want to have sex with them and nothing more. To me, this is essentially saying "You are nothing more than a hole for me to slide my dick into. That's it. When I'm done, fuck off." That to me is very detrimental, because there is no love. These types of people don't care about love. I know women do this as well, but it's seem like it's mostly guys who do this. And guys like this give the whole gender a bad name. And I understand that some of us are going to think about sex, that's fine. Sex is what makes us human. But like alcohol and weed, we have to use it responsibly. Both men and women must do this.
As for me though, I'm waiting until I find the right person to have sex with. Who that person will be I don't know. Will I lose my virginity? Probably. But that isn't my concern at the moment. I'm more focused on getting ahead in life and trying to afloat in this troublesome world. And I think you'll all agree that that's the most important thing in life.
What do you guys think? I like to hear your thoughts below! :)
I am not a very sociable person, meaning that I don't have a lot of friends. There are a few reasons for this. I'm shy, I don't have much confidence, I'm not a big talker, and I have difficulty expressing my emotions. I also have Asperger's Syndrome which makes it even harder to socialize with other people. That isn't to say I'm not a nice person, I'm very easy to get along with, and I can have fun with a lot of people. But it's just not easy for me to find friends. Let alone a girlfriend. Throughout my teenage years, I've never had a girlfriend. I was always so busy with school, my job and my personal interests that I never even considered a girlfriend. Most of the girls at my work just never really sparked my interest, and I'm generally shy around them. And whenever someone would ask me why I didn't have a girlfriend, I would always say, "I'm too busy for girls." To which they reply, "But you're a teenager. People your age should be going out, dating and kissing." Look, just because teenagers go out on dates doesn't mean that all teens will do it. Most teens just aren't ready for that sort of thing yet, and that's okay. You decide when you're ready to date, not your friends.
Which brings me to the sex. As a teen, I didn't really know a lot about sex. I had to learn much about it as I got older. Why? Well, I was homeschooled for the longest time from fourth grade up until eighth grade. From that point I went to a Christian school, and while I did learn a lot of things, sex education wasn't one of them. We were never taught basic things about sex because as a Christian you're supposed to wait until you're married. That doesn't always work for most teens, but at that time in my life it worked for me. If you look on my Twitter page, you can probably tell I'm a liberal, but I wasn't always like that. Back then, I was really conservative. How conservative? Well, let's just say I used to think that gays were parasites who added nothing. For the longest time, I was so anti-sex that I would be disgusted by people who made sex jokes and talked about sex openly. But since I've gained access to the internet, my conservative views began to decline. I no longer thought sex before marriage was bad, I became more tolerant of homosexuals, and I even started stray away from my religion, going from Christian to agnostic to atheist. And after all that I'm still a virgin. How? Well there's still more to it.
Even though I now know plenty of things about sex, I still haven't had sex yet. I did masturbate a lot in my teen years and I still do to this day, and I seem content with that. But nowadays, it doesn't seem like that's acceptable. A lot of guys feel pressured into having sex because according to mainstream society, men are perverts who want sex all the time regardless if they are in a relationship or married. I don't know about you, but I don't like being stereotyped as a horny, perverted, sex-crazed lunatic. Even though I look at a lot of furry and erotic MLP artwork on Deviantart and Furaffinity, I'm not always horny. Most of the time I don't even think about sex that much because I'm thinking about other things. Music, movies, video games, cars, my job, my family and so on. So for me to be thinking about sex 24/7 is just ludicrous. Besides sex isn't everything, and sex without love is pointless. But that doesn't stop a lot of guys from making one night stands with women. You know what I'm talking about. Guys who talk to women not to form a relationship, but solely to get laid. The players, the womanizers, the "use 'em and lose 'em" types. These are people that really piss me off.
Womanizers, in my view, do not care about the feelings of women. And I know it seems like an SJW thing of me to say but hear me out on this one. Womanizers are not interested in forming relationships with women, they only want to have sex with them and nothing more. To me, this is essentially saying "You are nothing more than a hole for me to slide my dick into. That's it. When I'm done, fuck off." That to me is very detrimental, because there is no love. These types of people don't care about love. I know women do this as well, but it's seem like it's mostly guys who do this. And guys like this give the whole gender a bad name. And I understand that some of us are going to think about sex, that's fine. Sex is what makes us human. But like alcohol and weed, we have to use it responsibly. Both men and women must do this.
As for me though, I'm waiting until I find the right person to have sex with. Who that person will be I don't know. Will I lose my virginity? Probably. But that isn't my concern at the moment. I'm more focused on getting ahead in life and trying to afloat in this troublesome world. And I think you'll all agree that that's the most important thing in life.
What do you guys think? I like to hear your thoughts below! :)
