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💬 Why I hate when people just say "Hello"
2 months ago
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TL;DR - Someone, once again, DM's me uselessly, resulting in a stir that happened off-screen from here, and what do I have to say on the matter in short? Don't poke me in my DM or messages and then not have a follow up. These sites pretty much explain everything I'm about to say in a more attractive manner than the mass of text below:
➡️ https://nohello.club/ ⬅️
➡️ https://nohello.net/en/ ⬅️
➡️ https://nohello.orangc.net/ ⬅️
Coming from a recent confrontation with an individual who... you guessed it, poked me in my DM with a greeting and after I asked what they needed, they said it was "Nothing", which then led to an arguement and me having to remove myself from an entire server, I've come to the decision to explain and provide insight on why I have issues with the "Hi" and "Hello" messages.
First, while I do understand that it is a greeting and intended to be a polite way to introduce yourself to someone, the person on the other end also isn't likely going to respond until you do, which kinda puts the chat on hold. When you do get back to em and respond, odds are the person is now away themselves, and now you have to wait for them to respond back with whatever it is they reached out to you for. See how slow and tedious this is going? and that's just one issue.
The other is when the person has absolutely no intention of starting or following through with a conversation after pinging you in your DM and they either just dont respond back, say something else nonsensical or say "Oh, it's nothing" after being asked why did they message you.
The problem is, in both instances, people want me to give my attention to them in DM's when they poke and when I do, it almost always turns into one of these scenarios where they either go offline immediately afterwards or just say "it's nothing", and now I'm left staring at the chat wondering why did they reach out to me or what did they need or want to talk about?
This has happened so many freakin times over the years and I have completely lost my patience for these kinds of interactions, to the point where I won't hesitate to tell people off about doing it, if not block on the spot. Like, C'mon, people! We are better than this!
I myself get anxious and nervous as all hell too sometimes when I reach out to DM someone, not knowing how they will respond or react but I don't just say "Hi" and then walk away either... I make my messages detailed and straight to the point, with a very clear reasoning behind my purpose and ask questions regarding the subject at hand if applicable, and try to keep tabs on the convo in my spare time to reply quickly and promptly, and not leave the person hanging for too long. Not no low quality "Hi, how are you and then go offline for 3 days before finally choosing to respond...seriously? I cant imagine how businesses or even the world would function nowadays if they all had the speech patterns akin to 12-year-olds I've seen on display in this fandom...- Xevy 🐺🐟
Why oh why some people think that a simple Hi or Hello is enough to get a conversation going is beyond me. Imo you gotta at least put a bit more effort in and mention up first what your conversation is gonna be about etc
Even just saying Hi there, how are you doing can make conversations go that bit further without sounding too plain and awkward.
Im sorry you've had to deal with this, it certainly is a very frustrating thing to have happen
Hopefully people will wise up soon, an unhappy wolf fresh makes me sad.
But every time I have to explain an honest point to a stubborn individual or why a pet peeve like this grinds my gears, this is what I feel like I turn into against my will and nobody wins in the end...