S/W/M

Single White Male

Been singled up with on a few online dating sites behind my back after my sisters marriage. seems I'm being worked on to find a perfect mate all my own.

I don't mind being signed up for dating sites, with or without my permission I guess. But deep down I keep getting the feeling that I'm not the type to please anybody.

Friends yes, but every time I try dating I tend to become the girls bestfriend and I end up introducing them to mister perfect (a friend of mine or someone I've only recently met)

After several doomed relationships I can't seem to get out of the funk of "so, how long before this ends?" I still seem to be the girls bestfriend (and they tell me problems and boons there getting in their relationships) which is great. I don't mind helping people where I can. It feels right to help people.

So, after much self examination, I have figured out my top five good traits and bad traits

Bad Traits
1- my luck with women in a romantic sense is about as good as a drunk driver with a blindfold on.
2- I have just enough charisma to get a girlfriend, but not enough personality to keep one.
3- I have a high IQ but not much knowledge after being taken out of HS so that I could be home tutored (anyone reading my writing can tell how well that went, my stepfather was suppose to be my teacher. At least through reading the other catigories at least rated higher than average during testing)
4- I have the romantic deductive reasoning skills of a piece of drift wood. (I practically have to be hit with a hammer to notice someone is hitting on me)
5- I can't stand most of the regular places to find dates. Bars and Church. I never feel comfortable in either place. Bars leave me thinking about my dad who was an alcoholic before he died and churches... well I feel kinda lost and alone there so I don't open up so much. I feel like an outsider looking into a place where I should belong but don't. (not that working constantly in my bookstore helps me much either. I generally only meet married women or elderly ladies from the retirement center down the street)

Five good things
1- I've got a decent sense of romance. Roses, poetry, dinner and movies.
2- I can cook so long as I have a recipe book in front of me
3- I'm pretty empathic and understanding. I'm generally always trying to help someone if I can.
4- Well I'm a nice guy (okay considering nice guys finish last this could be considered a negative trait)
5- Imaginative artist (both good and bad I suppose as well)