Awwwww >w<

Geez, this hits pretty close to home for me in various ways.
It really can be difficult, can't it?

Oof... I am sorry that you can't just commission people around.

Maybe someday you will overcome this.

I often feel like I don't have enough resources to help with the process. And I think that would be a problem for most artists.

Well it all depends on what are you asking to be drawn, I have worked on characters for commissions in were the client provided a single reference that only shows the character full body. ^^

As a commission artists myself, I very often have to contend with the people who don't seem to understand that artists are not "magic-make-art-happen machines." "Is it done yet?" this and "Can I have it for free" that...

The worst is when people tell me to change things while I'm already half-way through the drawing process, and asking me to do so multiple times.

Honestly all of this is why I've had to turn down most commission offers I've gotten over the past few months.

I can understand how frustrating that can be; I've seen a number of stories about how commissions can go sour, which is why I try not to be pushy.

Of course, it's that same fear of being confronted by such folks that prohibit me from offering commissions. Or at least, it's one of the many reasons.

I feel like it defeats the purpose of commissioning someone if you're also picky about how they draw it. I don't get many commissions, but the thing I find fun is seeing my character in someone else's style, with the bits they find most important being the most prominent. I'd just draw it myself if I wanted to be exacting.

I kinda gauge how picky I am based on how I approach my own art. I usually try not to be too overbearing because I figure it's already frustrating for the artist to get the picture done in the first place.

Understandably so, really. Commissioning and freelancing is a bizarre world on both ends and I'm rather glad I'm not interested in ever pursuing art for financial reasons. My girlfriend does and some of her clients have been, well, y'know. The good news is that the people who are aware of it are pretty much never as bad as them, and most artists are pretty reasonable so long as they're not uncomfortable.

Extremely relatable. I feel like a nuisance with all the changes I wind up asking for. "The ears need to be shorter." "The hair needs to be this shade of red." The more important the piece (ref sheet, channel art, etc.), the more picky I get. I feel so guilty asking for these changes, commissioning art has become too stressful. And so, I'm not gonna commission art no more. I'll just do it myself.

Except I lack the motivation to try.