Hey, don't worry about categorizing yourself. That's not something that can easily be done all at once instead focus your efforts into just being you. Be the best you you can be

Ah I think that's a good idea!
It's a little frustrating it to have all the answers, but I know just being me, whoever that is, is all I can really do!
Thank you for the kind reply, I really appreciate it 💚

You're welcome <3

No matter who you are, or what people think of you, It is best to remember that despite everything, It's still you.

Hope your day is wonderful today!

That thought does give me a lot of comfort, I think I'll hold onto that! Thank you for the thoughtful comment!
I hope you have a lovely day today too! 💚

hey, youre probably gonna hear this a lot, but i understand.
but i really do. i used to know i was a trans man, but due to a heavily conservative christian family, i was made to doubt myself and to this day i am struggling with it. i feel it in me, and i am beggining to know that i am in fact a trans man, but it took a long time and a lot of dedication to try to fix myself, which is hard.

thats a bit of a dump, but if you take away only one thing, it would be this:
labels arent like stickers. they are magnets.

and if you find that one doesnt quite fit, you can always change it out for a different one.
and you never need to label yourself as anything. i wont go into it, but that is a horrible road that i went down, but now ive learned that i jsut need to figure myself out as things happen to me! and not force myself to feel a certain way.
i love you nettle, and i want you to be okay. please let me know if you need anything. ever.
// platonically of course 💚

Aw man thanks for such a lovely comment slinks, it means a lot to me that you took the time to make me feel better and share a little of something so personal to you too! It's nice to remember I'm not actually alone in with this gender confusion, and others have been there :'))

I'm so sorry about that! I have no idea what that must have been like but holy hell bloody well done for getting through that and finding the confidence to be yourself now! That's amazing dude!!
I admire your strength to get through all that and still want to understand and be yourself!

I was certain I was the opposite of my assigned at birth gender for as long as gender distinction has been a part of my life.
I used to pray just to tell the God I didn't believe in that they had made a horrible mistake and please to not forget about me.
I prayed for years, even when I knew religion wasn't for me aha

But I actually came out as trans a few years ago and lived that life for years, but my dysphoria got WORSE.
Even after being so SO certain!

I wish something binary felt more accurate to my experiences, then perhaps my mother would see me, and maybe the world would be a little less scary if I felt like I fit into it :')

But I think you're right. Maybe I shouldn't try to force myself to fit anything specific, and just be myself, whatever makes me feel good and right at the time.

And i guess however I identify I know that I'm just m e, and I hope the people I are about will one day see me that way too :')

Aw man, I love you too slinks! As a bestie ofc! Gosh I'm not romantically interested in anyone eweeeeweew
Except dimitri from fire emblem bro any tiMe 😂😂😂

But honestly that's such a lovely thing to say slinks and I wholeheartedly return the sentiment!! If you ever need anything bud I'm here!
You have a small cow friend in the UK and I care about you! ;w;

bro dont make me blush fr, i honestly just hustled through XD but thank you for your praise my broh <333

dude yes, but i would pray for god to let me wake up as a boy and now i look back and im like "dayum thats sad-" XD
i was certain i was trans from ever since gender distinction was a part of my life as well, i love the way you worded that <3

well, you may not fit into the world right now, but thats what hands are for!! and i know for a fact yours would fit perfectly into mine if we had the chance <3

yes! exactly! whatever makes you happy, and then, once you realie it makes you happy, then try to find words! feelings come before words you know <33

fr fr besties only dont get me started- it makes me upset that some people cant just be friends bruh
i will keep that sentiment close to my heart, i dont forget easily mind you haha!
and rememeber i will always mean the same for you, even if you cant see me, ill be there <3

you have a north american wolf on your team at all times, and i will always cherish and care about you, nettle
<33

sorry i couldnt reply more, but i do want you to know i get how you feel, and i want you to be okay <3

That's some mad hustling then dude! XDD

Kinda wild to think someone else did that too what the hell
Same braincell strikes again omg
But also super sad to think a bunch of kids maybe feel or felt bad enough to pray like that :((

That's what hands are for!! Dude that's the cutest fucking thing ever whatthe helll 😭😭😭
Sending u the biggest hugs friend! ;w;

Oh! Feelings come before words! That's actually a great way to put that, I need to remember that!

Aw man honestly :c
Friendships are so important to me, and there are some incredibly kind people out there that make the world a brighter place! (like you!!) and dating is a whole ass thing
I just want some good wholesome buds ;w;

I'm not very good with worda but your kind words have made me feel so so much better so I drew something instead ;w;

Thank you for being there for me man, I appreciate it more than I know how to word! 💙💙

oh no not the braincell XD yeah, i feel liek a lot of kids do that though- i caught my little sister doing a similar thing (shes like 6 wth) but with a friend she thinks of as more, you know? and i didnt know what to do becuase our parents fucking suck :/

the bigest hugs are saved for you broh <33 i mean come on who doesnt love platonic hand holding??

i made that up when i was around 10-11, the feelings come before words, i cant even rememeber why, i think it had to do with my friends?? idk but now i pass it to you too <33

yeah!! friendships stay forever, but people break up and get divorced all the time. i love friendships becasue they feel more intimate to me, and more...present..if that makes sense?? im glad i make your world a little brighter, and i hope you know you make mine sparkle and shine <33

i will always be here for you as long as you want me around broh <33 never forget that <3

Sorry for the slow and smaller reply but wow, I'm sorry to hear your parents aren't great with that! :((
I think being her older brother she probably looks up to you a lot, and will no doubt find support in you for anything like that that your parents aren't able or willing to offer.
I think just being yourself will give her a lot of strength too!
I know my little sister who's 5 looks up to me a LOT, and I know her parents aren't going to explain or be terribly supportive of anything lgbt if it ever becomes relevant to her life. But they can't hide me, big queer that I am lol. Or my little brother, also a big queer, so just being yourself will offer a lot of support and confidence to her I think!

Also i totally feel the same about friendships! They feel a lot less heavy and a lot easier to me.
Aww man, I gotchu too bud! 💙💙
🐮🌼🐺

wow, i didnt really have a lot of confidence in myself around her- like hiding my hair, and generally toning down my...man-ness..? XD but now that you said that, im just gonna kinda not do that- instead of hiding who i am from her, i am gonna be myself, and she will make her own decisions. you know? wow you gave me a lot to think about, i am going to try to be a better brother to her, thanks for the inspiration bro <33
lil queer brothers omigosh thats too goo bro-
ALSO WE BOTH HAVEA LITTLE SISTER AGH-

i gotchu broh IM NEVAH LETTIN GOH <3 wow the lil emojis got me dying i love those wth-
🐮🌼🐺

how imma sign everythign from now on XD

Aw I'm sure you're a great brother already! But being confident is a great way to teach your littke sister she can be different and confident in herself too! 💚
We do! The similarities man 😂😂
I have 2 younger brothers closer to my age (25 and 18) and a little half sister who's 5! ^^

They do look super cute 😭💚💚
🌼🐮🌼🐺🌼

let me be honest for a sec- i wouldnt be where i am without my little sister. really shes jsut the best kid in the hwole world, and jsut like me when i was young. she acts so old, like she was never a kid. i wish she was closer to my age, but im glad shes a kid. i love her a lot, and im glad you and your siblings are so close, and i hope that i can look at that, and replicate it, becuase me and my family barely get along as you can imagine, and i want the min my life.
our similarieties got me dialing area 51 asking if my clone is still in constainment fr XD

YESS AGH LOOK ITS SO CUTE
✨🌼🐮🌼🐺🌼✨

"awooo-"
"MOOOOOO"

I'm sorry to say your clone is a free man now 😂😂

But fr that's so lovely to hear!!
Honestly I used to never like kids. I think because the idea that I was physically able to have them disturbed me too much? But then little Rosie was born and wow.. She is such a ball of life and love and energy!
I want to be brave and strong to show her she can be too!

It sounds like maybe there's good reason your family don't super get along though, and you can't hold the responsibility of that all on your own bud! Takes two to make any relationship work 💚
But i do hope things work out between you all! I know moving out helps take a lot of stress off of family members living together, so if you haven't done that yet when you do it may help!

But! If it doesn't work out too well there and so many wonderful people out there who can become your family, a found family if you will! And so so many people you have yet or meet who will adore you and who you love in turn! So just do your best but try not to run yourself dry friend 💛

The fucking awoooMoOO thing kills me omg 😂😂😂

"" I'm sorry to say your clone is a free man now 😂😂""
burh i nearly died at that XD

YES LIKE WOAH MY BODY CAN DO TAHT WTF - yeah, and now, i just want to be there for her, and i dont like kids still, but i love her. you know what i mean haha

thanks bro, youve made me think its possible honestly. i cant wait to move out, only a few more months untill i have a secure spot >:DDD working at dominoes really helps XD you are invited over anytime- er - well- if youre ever not in the uk that is XD

ah i love found family.. its so special. really. and same to you okay? it sounds like you won the family lottery, but rememeber to take your own advice, and to have faith in it bro <33
I KNOWWW IM A COMEDY GENIUSS AGAGA *crab sounds*

Oh christ far from the family lottery I'm afraid 8')
My father gave me horrible ptsd and I hope she's in jail by now.
And my mother was an emotional abusive transphobe as I grew up with intense depression as anxiety, it's absolutely wild I'm still here I won't lie :'D
I very almost wasn't about 2 years ago after stuff with my "dad".

But! None of that shit defines me.
My brothers are absolutely wonderful, and all my friends are the kindest (and queerest lol) people I could ever ask for!
And thankfully living with them now, so it's all much better!

Man if fear weren't my permanent buddy and we weren't so far away I'd be there!
But I cab still draw u cute art!! And we can hang via our fluffy sonas at least 💚💚
Agaga crab sounds?? 😂😂😂😂
Bruh ILY fr real, platonic ofc but omfg what is that 😂😂😂
Wish I could nickname u on this website bc ud be stuck with Mr krabs from now 😂😂

oop- well i guess im wrong, im sorry bro :c
well, im glad you are still here, becuase i never would have met you otherwise :cc

im so glad youre happier now bro, im so sorry you had to be in that...situation, for so long.. that sounds awful. if youd ever like to talk about it, id be up for it, okay? <3

yes! im so glad i met you, becuase now i am involved in your life and i plan on staying there >:DD
yes crab sounds lol DONT JUDGE ME XD
NOOOO NOT MR KRABS AGAGA
*takes ur wallet*
i can totally be nicknamed mr.krabs if youd like XD as long as youre still slip <333
have you ever looked up cowslip plants? theyre so cute bruh- they give me your energy <33

That's okay man nothing to apologise for! 💚💚

The agagaga thing cracks me up omg 😂😂🦀🦀🦀

Also thanks man! I've talked to a lot of counsellors so I think I'm okay now! Hut I really appreciate your support bud ;v;

Omg yes I love cowslips they're so cute!!
That's actually how I named my sona!
Maybe a little simple but irs such a pretty little flower and I love wholesome simple characters! So it makes sense! 💚💚

Also im glad I'm still here too! And I'm glad I met you! And I'm still literally buzzing with joy constantly bc if gender stuff?? I feel like a live wire omg
But!! I hope you're having the best day!! 💚💚💚🦀🦀🦀

i will always say agaga then XD

c-counselors? *shudders in literal feaR*
no problem dood <3333 any time fr <33

I KNOWW THEYRE SO CUTE -
i figured- each time i heard 'slip' i said "haha...cowslip."
✅cute
✅simple
✅DID I MENTION CUTE?

buzzing? well ive never been there but im glad your so happy broh ^^ do you think you can put words to it? like why exactly you feel that way? im curious is all so no pressure to respond lmao just saying <33

FR YOU TOO IM SO GLAD YOURE HAPPY SLAY QUEEN 💚💚🦀

a g a g a

I'll reply in a note if that's OK bc I'm on my mobile and every time we comment the box to type in gets smaller and smaller and its now so difficult omg 😂
So I'll note u dude! 🦀🦀🦀🦀

sure :DDD ill look at it in a sec im a lil busy <333

sorry for late reply btw <333

Hey news at all man never a rush! I’m abt to go to sleep anywho x)

g'night homie <33
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Hey man, I've said it before but gender is such a big scam! Sure I currently feel more comfortable with everything masculine, but I've also mellowed out on how strictly masculine I used to want to be in the beginning of my whole gender journey.
And who says it has to be strictly one or the other?! That's the whole scammy part about it!
Labels can be fun to use if you strongly identify with them but it's also completely fine if you don't!

It's the same with romantic/sexuality labels I'd say, I don't even know what I'd be with that.
Not too bothered about it either, but that might be the Dutch way of thinking about it lmao.

Either way, it's okay if it takes you awhile to figure out, but it's also okay if you don't! Who says you need to have your whole life together anyway, alot of people don't even if they pretend they do.

Oh!! I didn't know you were active on FA dude your comment really surprised me!
But as always its so nice to hear from you, especially about this sort of thing!

The attraction side of things doesn't really bother me, I think I've pretty much figured that out! But for some reason the gender stuff is just so difficult! A big ball of prickly feelings I can't make tops or tails of :'((

But man you're right, there isn't actually a time limit on figuring stuff out, if I even ever have to!
So ill just take it day by day and do whatever feels right, and maybe one day I'll find myself somewhere that feels better! ^^
Thanks for the comment man💙

I'm a chronic FA lurker haha, always online but I rarely post or fave anything, but I see ALL ;p

Well that's at least one thing to worry about!

You set the time limit yourself I think, make it as long or as short as you want, or make it not be there at all!
So this might not relate to the gender scam but with my current therapist I've been trying to figure out the whole anxiety about not doing art or basically anything I used to like doing, so she recommended to just not do anything, don't force it at all.
She said its like you're pulling rope with your anxiety and the harder you pull and force it the worse it gets, so she said to just ease the tension on the rope, don't completely let go because I still want to do art and other stuff but just don't put so much force behind feeling a need to do it.

I think that could work for alot of things, not everything ofc. But hey, Ive done an art yesterday so I guess it is starting to work lmao

GaSP you sneAk! 👀😆
Tell u what man I'm just gonna reply to this over messenger!
We always end up having different convos at the same time in different places! 😆💚

Oh hunny doll....here's what you do. Separate yourself from the community ENTIRELY. And honestly, they can be pretty toxic and fill your mind with all sorts of wrong think for your life. Separate yourself from them for a good long time, and just live life. You'll discover all these things just living life...and you got time! If I'm 30 and just now realizing I been fighting off gender dysphoria and a horrible syndrome my whole life...I'm sure you got time. You don't gotta put ANY labels on yourself! Not even when you do discover these things do you need to do that...you don't HAVE to be a part of something, even if you are it! Just live your life, let love come naturally to you...and you'll discover these things, and then you can do what you want with them.

Thank you so much for such a kind comment! Ive come to realise I am transgender, which I've thought for a long time, but it can be quite daunting to accept that.
You make a very good point of not trying to fit a label or a community and just being you! That's certainly something I want to work on x
I'm sorry to hear about your medical condition, I really hope things get better for you soon!!
You've certainly out asmkleon a strangers face here friend, thank you again, and I wish you the absolute best!