She screamed at her husband.
Did you mean the husband who diapered him?

Yes.

*gives the lil guy a hugg*see its folks that tha yutz that need to be dragged out to the street and beat to lifelessness with a meat tenderizer

Well, one of the whole reasons I'm putting this story back up is just to show the kind of things that can happen when adults allow themselves that kind of latitude when dealing with children.

The two adults involved (married) were constantly at each others throats. Its kind of what allowed this whole thing to happen. I was terrified of having to ask them any kind of question because I saw how they interacted with one another. I was shy to begin with. Could you imagine me interrupting two brawling adults ten times my size to ask them where the potty was?

So, I took the problem into my own hands, as it were. :p Kids are a hell of a lot smarter than adults give them credit for! I just lacked the experience to know that when I left the room, the husband would come looking for me! He was worried about what I might be getting into alone in his house. A perfectly NORMAL reaction, something someone who cares about your welfare would do…

Its when he found me in trouble that the shit hit the fan. Since spankings were something he had grown accustomed to handing out, and since the dog would get its nose rubbed in piss spots when she pissed on the floor, why not combine the two? The added humiliation of the diaper was simply him diapering someone he supposed needed some additional punishment just then. He had no idea just how much that part affected me, and he likely wouldn't even remember the incident. It was just another unhappy moment of rage for him in a series of unhappy moments that were his marriage.

When you are conditioned to beating on your kids, it just makes that switch easier to throw. That's why I don't believe in spankings. Ever. It just creates BAD feelings and unhealthy relationships between the child and the adult. Like this…

that kind of spanking is just cruelity and is abuse. you know drawing this out as you did in a way will deep down help you, if i could afford it..or could draw i would do something similar cause i had a messed up childhood

Of course it was cruel! I might feel differently if this had been the only meeting I had with him, but I literally grew up around this guy. He was the father of my best childhood friend and relative, and I got to spend a lot of time with him after this event. I still know him today. We don't exactly hang out, but he is a regular fixture around here during the holidays. We laugh, we drink, we have barbeques and go fishing. He is not the same person that I had a run in with that fateful day.

That person was born of a situation, a mood, and the idea that physical violence against a child was acceptable. When he went looking for me, he was fresh off of a fight, from a battle that had been going on for something on the order of 5 years. He did not have a happy marriage. The kids acted up because their parents were always fighting, and the way he had been taught to deal with naughty kids was to hand out spankings!

my friend....i feel for you for ur incedant....but ur best friends father rased his son his way....i have two litte bros...they get spainks only if they do sumthing really bad....but this punishment shows them that there is a concequence to their actions...breaking the rules of the house is like breaking the law...u were at his house so it was his rules(im talking about ur best friends father)

I knew someone would eventually step up and say something like this. Like I said: I don't blame him for what happened here. What I'm saying is that spankings historically do NOTHING to CORRECT bad behavior. If not for correction, then what is the spanking for? Also, it really depends upon the age of the child. There is a HUGE difference between giving a two year old a little swat on the behind when they run headlong into the traffic to get their attention, and doling out an ass beating like I got here!

Spanking like that serves only ONE purpose: To quell the anger of the one doing the hitting. And I can tell you from personal experience: The more you resort to acting out when you are feeling angry, the easier it is to snap the next time. His kid was ALWAYS getting his ass beat. Here are a few examples. You tell ME if you find them inappropriate:

Kid didn't want to go home when they had come over to visit MY house. He made the mistake of crying: Spanking.
Stepped into a mud puddle outside: Spanking.
Ate a bug in front of his father: Spanking.
Tripped and spilled his drink on the carpet: Spanking.
Stepped on a nail which went through his shoe and came out the top, through his foot: Spanking.

I watched the boy and his sister beat each other with a dog leash with a choke chain on the end when I was seven. Any violent tendencies taught to his kids, you think?

Its better not to get that ball rolling at all. I carry a gun. If I ever have to use it, I wont be able to "take it back". When it comes to parenting and discipline, much like the gun, spankings are the "nuclear" option. Just like the gun, you don't "whip that shit out" and wave it around every time something doesn't go your way. Kids will be kids. They will fuck up from time to time. Its more important to teach them from doing it again, than it is to show them just how violent you can get with them.

I never learned anything from a spanking, just what it feels like to be dominated.

Parents have a tough job. Don't make it even tougher by throwing physical trauma into the mix.

i understand the ordeal you went through...and i beleve your right...for example...me and my famliy wasbat the beach and my oldest little bro pooped his pants(hes 6) my mom and dad weren't mad...it was quite funny. but we didn't spank him....what ur friends father did was crual....shoven ur face in ur own piss.....its revolting!

Okay you need to chill out, I can understand if you honestly went through this why you're hurting, but spanking isn't a bad thing when used rightly. All the stuff you listed isn't right to be spanked for and i agree with you on that, but spanking is needed in for what i like to call "level of punishment"

If a kid talks back to you, throws fit, steals, or accidently hurts you badly you must talk to them and if needed punish them by being grounded for a small period of time

But if a child hurts another kid purposely and severly, attacks an adult, hurt an animal (LIKE KICKING A DOG MAKING IT CRY) they need to be shown that the kind of behavior they're doing is unacceptable and their will be harsh consequence for treating other living creatures with such disrespect.

Is the lady of the house is the mother?

Thats what lady of the house means, yeah.

Glad his mother trusted more than his father.

How is he not in jail? It's not even his kid that he's abusing, this is assault.

Oof, poor little guy. The man here seems so crazy to have done all this to you.

Once he got divorced, about 4 years later, he was a completely changed man. I honestly don't think this was his "base" personality. He is, in fact, a lot less liable to get into confrontations than I am. I truly believe this is what allowed led up to the incident:
1. Wife drove him out of his fucking gourd… Incessantly.
2. He had gotten too used to smacking bottoms.

All this led to what happened to me. It was like he was on fucking auto pilot.

We get along famously today, and its funny… I never was afraid of him afterwards. The next day, it was business as usual for me. With one important exception…

What's a gourd?

Derogatory slang for skull. A gourd is like a melon, but inedible, and grown either for ornamental display, or to make drinking vessels. …Also little bird houses!

I have to wonder if the guy was an alcoholic...or southern. This sort of thing tends to happen more than people realize.

Nah. In fact, I hardly ever see him drink, and I make some pretty good mead! He was just crazy from kids and his shitty marriage. I really don't blame him, but he sure let his temper get the best of him THAT day… It was during the time when he was spanking his son that he was really bad. Fortunately, that period didn't last long… I don't know why. But after that, he was pretty much normal. Never seemed to get really angry after that. I'm almost sure it was right after he got divorced.

Well I know when I was a child, and I was told no, and still did it, or knew not to, Then yes, I was spanked and I thank my parents for it still :3

Not saying that it doesn't work sometimes, but it can get out of hand very quickly with some people. I'm not saying that it shouldn't be a parent's decision, or that it will always cause problems, either. But its a fine line. Just as there are a lot of people who cannot deal with the responsibility of carrying a sidearm, there are a lot of people who overuse the option of spanking! And there's no denying it: Violence begets violence.

Ask me how many times I've waved my gun in the face of someone who didn't behave as I felt they ought to.

In this situation, my being shown to the bathroom would have accomplished the desired lesson, and it wouldn't have happened again. Hell, it wouldn't have happened in the first place if those responsible would have been paying attention to the fact I was uncomfortable with their fighting!

Instead, I get to endure an adult using me as a punching bag because my mistake "made them feel bad." Well, Fuck a Doodle Doo! I guess I deserved a lifelong scar for that little transgression. Perhaps I should have had my hand cut off when I lifted that pack of Rollos from the grocery as well. Guarantee that would have kept me from ever stealing again.

Then again, so did my Mum explaining to me that it was the wrong thing to do.

For FAR too many, spankings are an act of anger, a way for them to "express themselves" to their kids. If the kid is behaving badly enough that the parent feels the need to spank them, there is something else wrong. Kids should learn to be responsible for their actions, not endure the decidedly dubious technique of wailing on them to get their attention. To do so erases any possibility of a teachable moment. It just creates a negative emotional state for BOTH parties. Unless the parent ENJOYS it, that is…

The worst thing about them is you can never take them back. Once its done, its done.

Wow, you sure have a problem of living in the past and forgiving someone who has changed now. Good luck with life, hope it doesn't hurt you more.

I can see that you haven't read anything I've written about this in the past couple weeks. I do not hold the man responsible. I hold the IDEA responsible. The idea that somehow their can be an "acceptable" level of physical abuse. Its something akin to saying that its alright to rape someone, as long as you don't actually ejaculate inside of them.

As for spankings somehow being "responsible" for someone growing up into an upstanding, wonderful, caring adult; I'm pretty sure if you beat the a child, just a little, and then offered no other advice whatsoever, the results would be negative.

One can open the door to a their car by smashing it with a rock. Quick and effective. Or, they can reach into their pocket, and use the key to unlock the door. The latter being much better, because now, you don't have to deal with all that nasty broken glass. Not to mention the next time it rains you may be wishing you had tried the more thoughtful approach. So, tell me: Did you react with enjoyment or anger when they hit you? Or was it just shock that someone you trusted to keep you safe and warm decided it was easier to smash the window with a rock?

There is no such thing as a well thought out ass whipping. And dare I say: Decisions made in haste are nearly ALWAYS the least optimal solution.

"Window". I meant "window."

Anyway, I thought of yet another analogy. Lets say your wife asks you if she can buy a new pair of shoes. With your money. You tell her no, money's tight, and we need it for little Timmy's medicine. She buys them anyway. In fact, she buys two pair, just to piss you off, and leaves them out for you to see. You pull the belt off your waist and beat her for a little while. No permanent damage, just a few red spots to correct the behavior. Nothing your typical, I don't know- three year old wouldn't experience during a spanking.

Proper response? I mean, she KNEW she was challenging your authority, right? I've never heard of a better case for a good old fashioned spanking. She'll just love you more! Ever watch "The Burning Bed?" Great movie.

Thank you. I debated for a good long while about posting any of this at first. But curiosity (and a certain degree of anonymity) reigned, and I decided to spell it out. A troll or two notwithstanding, the response has been overwhelmingly positive. I imagine its interesting for someone who doesn't share this particular affectation to see how such desires are created. I sill have a hard time understanding why being beaten and punished with a diaper would make an individual gravitate toward wearing them, but here it is…

u have an amazing memory

Its amazing how indelibly these things get burned into memory. I literally can't remember much else from being that age. Just the traumas.

but u even remebr what u ate and how u played!

That day was pretty memorable. Tastes, smells, feelings. There are quite a few moments that have simply gone missing, but even then, I've left some of the more mundane stuff out. The playing in the backyard was what I remembered best. A close second would be the few minutes of getting punished, and the fight the adults had afterward, which l didn't include because it would have slowed things down.

o well u still have great memory

Yush! :)

Is amazing how you got the emotions into your pics...really amazing!

I'd like to think the 4 years of art school went somewhere… :)

Four years very well spent! Keep up!

He cry like a baby.

He try to stop crying.

I grew up being spanked, and I turned out perfectly fine. The person who swat you was in the wrong because he was not your parent. That and he treated you like a dog by putting your face into the pee. It was the whole experience that was dramatizing, NOT just the spanking. I don't condone the parents actions but of all he did the spanking was the lesser of all the evils. Your parents are the people who have the right to spank you, nobody else.

The spanking wasn't the bit that really did the damage, either. The diapering was. THATS what really turned everything inside out, though the spanking certainly made me receptive to the memory. If I had just been diapered, I don't know that I would have remembered any of the episode. But following the spanking, it became a comforting mechanism, and a further source of humiliation. I think the spanking is what made the experience "stick". And given the fact that I had never had one before, made it all the worse. No adult had ever gone out of their way to inflict pain on me up to that point, aside from the little self inflicted bumps and bruises a toddler gets while learning to walk, I had never really felt much in the way of pain up to that point.

So, yeah, the combination of things conspired to completely fuck me up, and turn me into the excessively caring and sensitive person I am today… in diapers.

I dont understand how having to wear diapers at your age would be that big of a deal, and if that were the case why would you wear diapers after if all they would do is make you remember the whole episode? Anyways, I was just commenting on what you wrote in your pic, about reasons for spanking and such. IMO spanking is perfectly fine, if it is done by the parent. But I have to say, his putting you into a diaper is something anybody would have done. Especially because it was the only option till your clothes were clean (even if they chose not to wash them, which baffles me), because as you said the person you were visiting was still in diapers himself.

I wouldn't say that I wore them because they made me remember the bad feelings… Its the feeling of security they created I guess I was trying to replicate- the way they felt in contrast to being stripped naked and beaten. My brain just instantly was hardwired at that point to recognize them as a source of relative comfort and safety. After all, I wasn't going to be peeing on any more floors that day! If I had to, well… I had a diaper now! No more worries!

And my clothes were cleaned up- my pants anyway. They put the underwear back on me to help hold the diaper, and because they thought it might make me forget I was in a diaper! We gave the underwear a proper sendoff later in the day.

This is all bias! Spanking is bluntly love. The issue is that parents are too passive and don't punish their kids at all. If you've seen this generation you would see that the motivation that some of these kids need is a swift kick in the ass!

I don't want to come off as one of those "kids should NEVER be physically punished!" people, because, quite frankly, I'm not. I've said it before, and I'll say it again: You can't let your kids rule over you.

However, what I experienced here was an asshole who was angry, hitting me, abusing me- using me as a punching bag because HE had a temporary inconvenience visited upon him. This wasn't a parent, landing a corrective swat on the backside to get an unruly child's attention. This was an all out fucking BEATING. It did NOTHING to correct the situation, it just made things a thousand times worse.

The only purpose it served was to make the adult feel good- to sate his rage. In that moment, he fucked me for LIFE. There was no lesson learned, with the exception of one:

Being diapered was better than being spanked, and the diaper made me feel safe, like a security blanket I could wear.



I've had to deal with those few moments for the rest of my life. But hey, at least he got to take out his anger on something, and that's all that matters, right? I made an error, and a 4 year old shouldn't be allowed to make errors- even if they were the result of a desperate situation that I had no control over. Sorry I was too shy to ask two brawling, screaming, scary adults 6 times my size to take me to the bathroom just then.

Would you sentence your child to the same life experience? Give them the uncontrollable desire to wear diapers? Because of one more spot on an already pissed up floor?

Spankings aren't fucking LOVE. They are PAIN, PUNISHMENT, SUFFERING. LOVE is LOVE. I have a real hard time with people trying to tell me punishments all by themselves somehow represent LOVE. I guess the Electric Chair would be the ultimate expression of Amor then, eh?

Its the WHY that matters. If the kid doesn't understand WHY they are being spanked, or as in my case- they receive one UNFAIRLY, we'll just call it what it is: A Goddamned BEATING.


Go ahead: Hit your kids. Just don't do it for the wrong fucking reasons, and you damn well better know for SURE you are doing the right thing at that very moment.

I do agree what your saying, you didn't deserve that, my earlier statement was simply my 2 cents on a generation going to hell. I still stick with what I said about spankings, 2 year olds are unmoved and unresponsive to a lecture. Trust me...I do beleive in corporal punishment. DO NOT GET ME WRONG. I have a child of my own and I still love the little guy to death just as he shows as much affection towards me. I have given him a spanking once or twice, with good reason. The first one, he destroyed my family heirloom after told him OVER 9000!!! (Times) not to touch the shiney vase in my room. Situation #2, threw his cream of mushroom soup on the ground when he was 5. Showing no discipline is quite the opposite. I just simply beleive corporal punishment is the most effective. I still have a live healthy and effectionate 17 year old of my own who will agree.

Both good examples of PROPER times to tan a hide. The trick is, in knowing when, and how much. I understand why it IS necessary, and as with ALL things, there are no absolutes. Good on you for knowing the right time. Even as a child, I knew "time outs" were bullshit, and I'm glad my folks hadn't heard of them. Much worse to see Mum cry over something you just did… Hell, I'd rather have been beaten! The only time I ended up in "time out" happened to me in school, the teacher came back 15 minutes later to find I had become engrossed in the nearby film projector, and had disassembled it into over 2 dozen pieces!

My punishment then was to stay there while the principal watched, and put it all back together before I could leave the room. I honestly think they didn't know how to put it back together themselves… Then, I had to eat lunch alone, which suited me just fine, as I hated the other kids at my table anyways…

I guess I just get pissed off about the folks who seem to wear it on their sleeve, and make a huge demonstration out of dominating their children physically. They kind of soured me long ago. Having said that, I hope that my kids never give me occasion, but rest assured, I would if they earned it!

The thing that really screwed the pooch in this situation, as I've said before- was being diapered like that. The combination was definitely damaging. It didn't help that I wasn't able to talk to anyone about what I felt afterwards- my parents simply pretended that I hadn't come home in diapers that day, and not wanting to be ostracized further, I didn't talk to anyone else about it either.

since this argument is clearly going no where and we could argue the morality of this until the end of time, I have decided to leave. As Eric Cartman once said "SCREW YOU GUYS IM GOING HOME"

Meh. Actually, I think we can call it a draw. :) I pretty much agree with what you said in your previous comment.

Is the character a baby? I just want to know.

In this illustration, he is about 4.

theirs a difference between a spanking and abuse. this is strait up abuse not a spanking.

To be honest. I know this is a very old submission and this is a dumb idea to comment this,but I must.
1. In this story this was NOT the parents who spanked the cub.
2. There ARE cases in which only spanking can work. For example, a child sees something interesting on the other side of the road, runs for it crossing the road risking getting hit dead by a car, parents are terryfied, the moment ago the child was holding mom's hand and now the child runs to their own death. Thanks god it ends well and the child safely reaches the other street or the parents catches the child. The child is only 4-5 years old.
Now QUESTION: Will you try to explain to the little one why is it dangeous to cross the street? Will you try to reason the 5 years old acting on their emotions PURELY? What is the best way to make the child be afraid of the road with CARS? Spank. Spank them so the will see this punishment as the clear sign tehy did something very wrong. No need to mundane explanation the child will foget the next time they see a cute kitty across a street and run for it. Just spank them. And there is a lot of similar situations where the spanking or other light physical punishment that does not physically hurt or harms works BETTER than any modern "talk to the child and explain" methods. The small one WILL NOT listen, they act on emotions fear of physical pain is one of the emotions they WILL listen to. Of course there is NO need to beat the child or bruise them, literally the spanking even does not need to be very hard, for most of the cases the stress of being punished y parents for something is already enough, it is enough even to just simply pretend you are spanking the child imitating the loud slaps you know. The child's mind will take it as punishment anyway. This is my opinion. I think that a child with red spanked butt is better than a child on a road hit by a car before your eyes., right?