I really hate needy family. guilt is something you just do not need as a new-to-adulthood bitter bitch

dude my mom does it all the time even when its her fault she guilts me into thinkign I did it.

my mom used to do the same thing.

my theory is that parents who have kids far too young (like, before they know themselves) fuck up so much that they begin deflecting their own failures onto their kids just so they can maintain a frame of mind stables enough to keeping working and doing what they need to do to keep everyone clothed and eating. I can't imagine how stressful its gotta be just getting preg 'all of a sudden' and having to raise a human being for 18 solid years at least

it's no excuse for the shitty parenting, but just my observation and explanation as to how everything suddenly became my fault when I was born.

My solution: people have got to plan pregnancy after they have houses and careers D: earth = in trouble

that is a pretty sound theory actually I like it.

Yeah thats why I haven't had a kid yet, though I want to, still need the college first got the house though.

smart thinking :D we need a new generation of smart and stable loving homes.

so true there are way to many dumb peopel around that mainly being the cause I am sure.

I'm not even close to adulthood, though I wish I was. But yeah, Really don't need my mother wanting to cling to me.

really? holy fuck, how old are you? you seem very well-versed in life, you must be an old soul

I turned 19 on Saturday. and yeah I've always been like this. Everyone thinks I'm in my early to middle twenties.

Which is a good thing, since I wasn't that bad in high school lol

I also meant adulthood as in having a real job, my own place, and actually doing adult stuff. I don't even have a car.

well yeah 19 is pretty young for all of that anyway, don't rush.


I moved out when i was 17 (2001) and it was a disaster up until about 2007. 2 years after my dad died (2005, cancer), I really got my shit together. which is good! because now my mom is dying from cancer and I gotta be there to help her :P


Family can really seem like a chore, and I KNOW how hard it is to let go of those grudges, but as hard as it is for you to accept, remember: pity your mom. she behaves this way because she is afraid of you, probably thinks youre too smart for her to raise and she feels like a failure as a guide. trust me, since my mom got her diagnosis she's broken down and confessed alot of stuff to me.

My mom still wants me to be little so she can keep me around forever. I know she isn't proud of the person I've become and want to evolve into. It's depressing really.

I'd rather not take it slow anymore. Because right now I have to deal with my family constantly telling me to get a job, do something, get a car, get a life, stop sleeping so much and so on. It's just.. ugh.

my mom did the very same thing up until she got sick with her brain and lung tumors.

no matter what I did in life, after i turned 12, she really called me an embarrassment up until my father died when i was 21.

I fucking loved and hated that woman so much all at once that I felt more like a neutrality toward her than either extreme ( than a severe like or dislike. )

but man, trust me, like you are so smart for your age, your mom is TERRIFIED of you.

if you asked the right questions you might be amazed at what she really thinks of you. But you have to give her the chance to make it right.

and if she's one of those moms who wont grow up and wont change her bad habits, call her tell her which habits of hers bother you. and then visit in maybe a month or so, if she's still exhibiting the behaviours you mentioned in the phone conversation, point them out to her, and leave.

it honestly pretty much took me dangling my love above my mothers head to get her to break down and be honest with me and finally "GET IT"

but do not avoid her until its too late, learn NOW what I had to learn since Feb 2009 when my mom got ger cancer diagnosis.

She does love you. shes just scared. its kinda like homophobia, it stems from fear. she's your mom, and you're her baby.

I pretty much know my mom's whole thing about her wanting me to be the perfect little Christian girl, and her wanting me and obsession with appearance is what gets me furious at times.

I'll try to make it all right with my mom. I just need time to get over the anger first.

so you bro just took off without you. that is lame

Yup. Him and his girlfriend just got in the car and took off. So I went poop.

that was very dickish of him really

Eh yeah it was. But now I don't have to deal with people right now when I really don't want to.

yeah thats the big plus side so it worked out

Ugh, family guilt. x.x

your bro is dildos

he ended up coming back for me lol