Damn straight. Me and my Boy don't have the same kinks but we love each other all the same. And who knows. Maybe if you poke around with their kinks you might find something out about yourself!

Aw, hehe, that's what I'm happy to hear! I'm definitely starting to think that things can work without those matching. :3

Good on ya matie! Lots of respect to ya! Without my boyfriend i dont think i would love chubbies as much as i do now. It also made me feel unashamed of chub love!

This is very true.
Me and Quintus don't share ANY kinks. Like, at all lmfao.
But we're still closer than ever uwu

Haha aw, wow! I'm surprised. :O But I was really happy hearing another friend mention that too! I usuaully hear people have matching kinks and are happy, or don't have matching kinks and are unhappy. I need to hear more about happy couples with kinks that don't match. :3 Thank you!

I think it's best to share, try your partner's kinks and they try yours (As long as there not into toilet play anyway) then set it as an exchange, you can get your kink if they get theirs.

Hehe, I think it's the best situation when they match! (:
But I'm happy folks can still get along even when they don't.

Yeah not everything needs to be naughty, you can always cuddle.

I know the feeling so much but least it was nice when it lasted when i had mine *sighs*

Why you gotta be so deep??
*claps and cries*

Zanny and I have the same kink when you simplify it (fat/chub), but there's so many differences between our preferences (the biggest being that he prefers realistic weight gain, while I like it more cartoon-styled). It rarely makes a difference, though.

I don't think either of us are all that interested in intercourse, either. It's something we've discussed a handful of times, but I think we're both more into our kinks than we are into sex.

Haha, this is a late response, but I always appreciated everyone's feedback! Your relationship was Zanny was a lot like the best one I had - when your like each other a lot and your kinks all line up well too! It makes things easy and harmonious and everyone's pretty happy because you don't have to work around a lot. :3 And if you both have a kink that's focused on something that's less like actual sex, it makes sense it wouldn't be a big deal for ya. :3

Nice to hear from someone else who isn't into intercourse. ^^ A relationship doesn't have to revolve around kinks, but it can. It tends to be more about common interests and whether or not that other person appeals to you on a personal and caring level. As long as you have that, you don't really need intercourse to express love.

But it's very special when you find that right someone who has the same kinks as you, and isn't just about getting you in bed...

That's true! I've found a few guys like that before - but they're kinda in the past. X3 Most other guys I met with my kinks aren't good relationship material. It's been a few years and I've checked around - I'd rather just be happy with someone than have a perfect kink partner.

I too have had a handful of kink-centered relationships, they ended as you'd expect them to. Am yet to find someone who truly loves me, but I have high hopes~

Hehe, it's pretty tough. (: And it gets harder when you're older! I think with specific kinks like ours, it's gonna be tough. X3 I'd think if there are lik 100 people out there that're just as into my thing - and you narrow it down to who's single, and who's interested in a relationship - and who's within reason of dating... who you get along with... it gets slimmer and slimmer. X3; It's a lot easier to start with who's neat and nice! And if you're lucky, they'll indulge ya a bit. :3

I'm versatile, so it's not TOO much of a problem, sex-wise. It's more about understanding. I feel like, if someone doesn't "get" me and what I like, then they probably aren't the right person for me. At the very least, I would like for them to consider being open to trying new things, especially if I am.

Then I also think to myself "can 'furry' in general be seen as a kink?". I feel like the community as a whole definitely isn't one and I've been a bit adamant about dating within it because it's become a large part of my life the last four years in terms of people I talk to, activities I do, etc. (as opposed to before when it was more a passive hobby and an outlet to experience kinky stuff).

Feeling understood is super important! People are so spacey and lazy, if they can't make you feel like they understand something, then it's likely they don't. Gotta have a connection that feels right. :3

I think furry is a good common kink! :3 I wouldn't really wanna date a non-furry either - that's kinda like my bare minimum. But then lately I've peeped on someone that doesn't have a furry character but is into cartoons and things just as much. (: There's some wiggle room, but yeah, if nothing else, having a cute animal partner would be nice. :3

Kinks aren't really something that should be top priority. Trying to find a potential spouse by looking for suchandsuch an amount of matching kinks might invite disaster rather than a healthy relationship.

To me, a working relationship is built upon trust first and everything else second. To feel as a couple I must be able to feel comfortable around my partner, to know that he will stand by me, and be there when I need him. And likewise, I must be willing and comfortable with doing the same for him. That is the foundation we chose to built our relationship on, and it has stood fast for several years now.

Following up on the strange house building metaphor: If trust is the foundation, kinks and such are the decorations. It's really nice if you got matching kinks or kinks that complement each other, but it's really not worth that much if there's nothing to build on, just like fancy shit is worthless if you have no place to put it in. Like, imagine being in a rainstorm with no house, and trying to hide under a shiny glass lamp. It won't work.

My boyfriend and I do not have any matching major kinks (beyond the fact that we're both categorizable under the broad label of "furry"). But because we built our relationship on something substantial, we are able to complement each other regardless. We are comfortable with playing into each others kinks and able to draw satisfaction from something we aren't normally into, because if you have a solid bond, you will feel happy when you see your partner happy and vice versa.

So like, I guess the advice I would give you is: If it happens and you find someone you want to try to share your life with, be honest, and be someone your partner can trust. If your partner is willing to do the same, and you can keep that give and take going without stopping feeling comfortable with each other, your relationship might just have a decent shot.

Matching kinks or not.

Thank you so much! Sorry for responding late, but this was all helpful to hear. I feel way more confident after a lot of folks told me about how their relationships work despite the sexual aspect not matching up entirely, or much at all. I was so used to hearing the opposite, how people felt disconnected and weren't happy without a sexual connection, but it's great that other relationships are great even without everything matching entirely. :3 I think I must'a just gotten lucky - my longest, happiest relationship synced up so well emotionally and sexually - so on top of what I'd heard a lot of before, it just seemed like that's what I should aim for. But sometimes you just get lucky. ;3 And it's good to adjust and know that sex lives aren't really that big of a part of a relationship. People can usually work that out, especially after solidifying the basic parts of a relationship like you mentioned, trust and feeling confident about each other, etc. (: I think I'm pretty willing to start with those and try to work out the rest with the right partner!

What a good friend. B) Thank you so much for the advice, I appreciate it!

You pay taxes right? Depending on where you live, that is more intercourse than most folks need or want.

Yeah ... sometime when you date someone it's like a discovering game in a certain way ... I must say that I like  OzzieKitSkunk way of seeing things ... what's important is what inside the heart of the person ... his soul in a certain way ... when you find a true one it's like finding a diamond ...

I don't like slinging around words like they mean something, but as asexual as I am I still want a healthy romantic relationship with someone and it's something I strive to make happen. Physicality has never come up in any relationship I've had and it's still just as happy and healthy as any other. The only factor that ever broke up my relationships was distance, and that could have been easily overcome with a little more effort on my part.

tl;dr sex doesn't make the relationship, etc.

I have been dating someone for 9 years, and we have never had sex (we also don't do pretty much anything sexual/physical wise) due to his health slightly, partly due to he is worried because he has never had it and is not sure at all if that is his thing. Yes, it has been hard, I am a perv and I would love to make love with the person I love. It doesn't mean I don't love him :) I love him and will always love him. He tries a little to show some physicality and it helps a bit but it doesn't make the relationship a relationship. Just being with him makes it a relationship.

D'aw.

I think you are changing in the right direction! Kinks can make sex more fun and dabbling in them and seeing how far the other is okay with going is nice, but it's really not the main business of a relationship. Who you are as a person matters way more, things tend to find their course in the bedroom if both parties are willing to do their best. Good luck!