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A picture's worth a thousand words, and I struggle to come up with the words to describe exactly what this one means.
Sometimes emotion cant be translated through words - and that's precisely what this image is - an emotion, a feeling.
I often feel I have so much to offer, but am bypassed and disregarded too quickly by those I wish to present myself to. I'm often left wondering what it is that discourages them from getting to know me.
My external beauty isn't a true representation of my internal beauty.. yet so few take the opportunity to see it because what's on the exterior doesn't appeal to them.
In a world where wearing your heart on your sleeve means vulnerability and naivety, what are we to do? If genuine love and sensitivity goes unshared, and is never experienced... how can you know it exists at all?
When will we be seen for whats on the inside before what's on the outside?
/end feed
Edit: I kind of want to elaborate on what this actually means - specifically to debunk suspicions regarding what this is about. My main intention with this was to represent friendship - not a dating relationship. It's actually because of this relationship status that people are so often turned off of getting to know me. It's as if I'm no longer a potential - so why bother!
In a world where people care so passionately(nearly obsessively) about dating, they have a tendency to disregard the very basis of a good relationship.. a friendship without alternate intentions.
Sometimes emotion cant be translated through words - and that's precisely what this image is - an emotion, a feeling.
I often feel I have so much to offer, but am bypassed and disregarded too quickly by those I wish to present myself to. I'm often left wondering what it is that discourages them from getting to know me.
My external beauty isn't a true representation of my internal beauty.. yet so few take the opportunity to see it because what's on the exterior doesn't appeal to them.
In a world where wearing your heart on your sleeve means vulnerability and naivety, what are we to do? If genuine love and sensitivity goes unshared, and is never experienced... how can you know it exists at all?
When will we be seen for whats on the inside before what's on the outside?
/end feed
Edit: I kind of want to elaborate on what this actually means - specifically to debunk suspicions regarding what this is about. My main intention with this was to represent friendship - not a dating relationship. It's actually because of this relationship status that people are so often turned off of getting to know me. It's as if I'm no longer a potential - so why bother!
In a world where people care so passionately(nearly obsessively) about dating, they have a tendency to disregard the very basis of a good relationship.. a friendship without alternate intentions.
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"When will we be seen for whats on the inside before what's on the outside?"
Most likely never, visual attraction is usually the first thing that draws you to a person. The most interesting way to overcome that is meeting somebody online, where they don't see you first. Can't remember the study exactly but there was one where two people were put into a dark room where they couldn't see each other. Without visual cues the people were instantly more open with each other in conversation and answering questions. We're visual creatures.
Most likely never, visual attraction is usually the first thing that draws you to a person. The most interesting way to overcome that is meeting somebody online, where they don't see you first. Can't remember the study exactly but there was one where two people were put into a dark room where they couldn't see each other. Without visual cues the people were instantly more open with each other in conversation and answering questions. We're visual creatures.
I know how you feel.
I see it everywhere, people want whats on the outside and willing to trade personality for beauty. And I don't see why, I don't understand how anyone could put up with someone who's so piss poor in personality just because they look good. Or why anyone would pass up on a person who's personality compliments their own in that special way, just because they're not a 9 or 10.
Maybe I'm just weird, but personality effects how attracted I am to a person's outward appearance; maybe not at first, but it does. My friends will tell me how they are attracted to a specific person, and they'll be a total bitch and I can't bring myself to find them even physically attractive to me. It's like a nice carpet that you know has a dog turd swept up under it...
I see it everywhere, people want whats on the outside and willing to trade personality for beauty. And I don't see why, I don't understand how anyone could put up with someone who's so piss poor in personality just because they look good. Or why anyone would pass up on a person who's personality compliments their own in that special way, just because they're not a 9 or 10.
Maybe I'm just weird, but personality effects how attracted I am to a person's outward appearance; maybe not at first, but it does. My friends will tell me how they are attracted to a specific person, and they'll be a total bitch and I can't bring myself to find them even physically attractive to me. It's like a nice carpet that you know has a dog turd swept up under it...
I always look on the inside...outside everyone is pretty much the same. The soul, intelligence, wit, artistic talent, and sense of humor is what makes TRUE beauty. My late wife was truly beautiful inside and outside. She's been gone now 2 1/2 years and in the last two months I have met a truly beautiful woman and I think we are falling in love. We had our first date last night and it was great! She has moderate Muscular Dystrophy but it does not hinder her much, and she is TRULY beautiful. I can't wait to see her again.
From what I can tell you're pretty awesome. :B If we ever met I'd get to know you for sure. Sometimes it's not that people aren't interested, but that they're secretly just as insecure as you are. I've had a surprising number of people tell me that I'm intimidating to them, and I haven't the slightest clue why. But we tend to blame ourselves before anyone else in these scenarios.
I really love my wife, not because of herlooks, but because e truly loves me for who I am and I love her for who she is. I'm not.good with words either. sorry fomistakesdid this on my phone . If I didn't talked to her on the day we met I would.... Well I'm not sure :/ all I know is if I didn't take the time to get to know her my life would have turned out all messed up. She seen me through a lot of shit.... Some I regret deeply but she still loves me.... Don't judge a perison buy there looks the last person u would think to talk to may just be the love of ur life. Again sorry for all the mistakes this phone sucks...
I Love my Husband with all my lil wolfie heart <3 He means so much to me and there's nothing that he does that will evr stop me from Loving him :) I know he sometimes fears he'll lose me but we are mated forever and always I accept him for how he is and he accepts me for how I am I'll alwayz Love him no matter what through good times and really tough times. <3
Mated: April 13th, 2009
Engaged: August 26, 2010
Married: December 14th, 2012
Mated: April 13th, 2009
Engaged: August 26, 2010
Married: December 14th, 2012
Its because all anyone cares about is tits and ass, people sit and whine and cry about being bored and having nothing to do. but when a legitimate person starts talking to them IF THEY AINT GOT A HUGE PRIMDICK AND WINGS WITH MASSIVE TITTYS, then you are not worth listening to.
You have to wait until someone actually looks at you for who you are, and in reality all those people who pass you by and ignore you... fuck em honestly. Is it really worth wasting your time and energy on someone so FIRMLY narrow minded? no... the sad truth is, people that are even WORTH the effort of talking to are very.. VERY few and far between. however, from time to time you cross paths with someone who gives a fuck and is not trying to squeeze sex/pitty/drama/money/freebies/porn/etc out of you until you are a withered and dry husk of who you where at the start.
Yes, i will agree making more friends is always a wonderful and much needed thing for us all. I personally take stride in the fact that if someone wants to blow me off? bah, it is their loss, not mine. Because the kind of people i want to surround myself with? Those people are the ones who are not oh so petty and full of lies and deceit, a friend is also someone that's not just a name on a messenger that.. talked to you once that one time.. back when umm... hey where did i meet this person at?
Or you start a conversation with someone and they ignore you or walk away or tell you OH MAN WE GOTTA HANG and never call you. If they want to ignore the person you are and what you have to offer because you don't have your jugs hanging out panting half cross eyed hopped up on redbull and screaming at the top of your lungs about my little pony in a frantic caffeinated full blown panic attack... like i said, you are better off without them. you will find some good friends over time.
Once you weed out the stalkers/weirdos/creeps/pretenders/people who just want in your pants/etc.
You have to wait until someone actually looks at you for who you are, and in reality all those people who pass you by and ignore you... fuck em honestly. Is it really worth wasting your time and energy on someone so FIRMLY narrow minded? no... the sad truth is, people that are even WORTH the effort of talking to are very.. VERY few and far between. however, from time to time you cross paths with someone who gives a fuck and is not trying to squeeze sex/pitty/drama/money/freebies/porn/etc out of you until you are a withered and dry husk of who you where at the start.
Yes, i will agree making more friends is always a wonderful and much needed thing for us all. I personally take stride in the fact that if someone wants to blow me off? bah, it is their loss, not mine. Because the kind of people i want to surround myself with? Those people are the ones who are not oh so petty and full of lies and deceit, a friend is also someone that's not just a name on a messenger that.. talked to you once that one time.. back when umm... hey where did i meet this person at?
Or you start a conversation with someone and they ignore you or walk away or tell you OH MAN WE GOTTA HANG and never call you. If they want to ignore the person you are and what you have to offer because you don't have your jugs hanging out panting half cross eyed hopped up on redbull and screaming at the top of your lungs about my little pony in a frantic caffeinated full blown panic attack... like i said, you are better off without them. you will find some good friends over time.
Once you weed out the stalkers/weirdos/creeps/pretenders/people who just want in your pants/etc.
I spent minute or two to exatlcy read what you have to say and to interprate your art withwhatever knowledge of things like that I do posses and I have to say that I feel exactly the same way . Being rejected by others , being assessed without even slightest knowledge about us... this hurts so much that those who do it to us can`t even imagine.. even if in most cases they don`t do intend to hurt us they could have avoided it all by just giving us slightest chance and at least trying to get know us before assessing and rejecting
I can relate to this on so many levels, I have been wanting to have a decent relationship, but it is hard to find some one these days who understands. I have always been alone, people come and go and it seems every time, you lose a peace of yourself and moments in life always remind me of the song "behind blue eyes" by The Who, that song always fits my me very well "no one else bites back as hard on there anger, none of my pain or whoa can show through." Also you did a great job, no, fantastic expression of emotion and I have always wanted to get to know you, but never knew how or what to say and just to let you know we all care.
Oh Kappy...this picture just breaks my heart. What I would give to sit next to you and toke with you, and hug you.
You are on my mind nearly every day. I hope that someday my future allows me the funds to rent a second apartment in Vancouver so I could see you more often.
Loveyou. All my best. <3
You are on my mind nearly every day. I hope that someday my future allows me the funds to rent a second apartment in Vancouver so I could see you more often.
Loveyou. All my best. <3
Interesting concept.... I wonder if shading JUST the Roses the friendship color of "Yellow" would cut down the confusion further?
And yeah.... found myself struggling with this recently. Started with: how many artists did I follow b/c I thought they were unattached girls? --> "hmm... none that are still around today.." ...And Would that influence my decision to give them more comments? Could I be taken advantage of and convinced to do free art for some non-artist just pretending to be a single girl? (poor Tremaine sure was, boy was that a cautionary tale). Then I eventually realized half the artists I watched or saved art religiously from who I simply assumed were guys like me, turned out to be female to the point that 2/3's of my active watchlist ended up being *very* popular girls (and therefore always attached I'm assuming). Then I had a new dilemma, I'm obviously not putting my Bro's first like I thought I had been
Obviously "sex sells" and the more complete the Fantasy, the more fawning fanboys that are bound to be attracted. (Anyone here remember the Jessica Drama?). And that can be pivoted into lot more fanart & comments, and even higher commission prices. But I also think there's just as many of us who don't follow that behavior pattern but know one notices because it's also unfortunately that very same anti-social nature which keeps us from fully engaging those "Plain Janes" too in any meaningful way. I mean We're pretty daft to begin with when it comes any kind of invitations, platonic or otherwise. If I ever got one from anyone, I sure never noticed it....
And yeah.... found myself struggling with this recently. Started with: how many artists did I follow b/c I thought they were unattached girls? --> "hmm... none that are still around today.." ...And Would that influence my decision to give them more comments? Could I be taken advantage of and convinced to do free art for some non-artist just pretending to be a single girl? (poor Tremaine sure was, boy was that a cautionary tale). Then I eventually realized half the artists I watched or saved art religiously from who I simply assumed were guys like me, turned out to be female to the point that 2/3's of my active watchlist ended up being *very* popular girls (and therefore always attached I'm assuming). Then I had a new dilemma, I'm obviously not putting my Bro's first like I thought I had been
Obviously "sex sells" and the more complete the Fantasy, the more fawning fanboys that are bound to be attracted. (Anyone here remember the Jessica Drama?). And that can be pivoted into lot more fanart & comments, and even higher commission prices. But I also think there's just as many of us who don't follow that behavior pattern but know one notices because it's also unfortunately that very same anti-social nature which keeps us from fully engaging those "Plain Janes" too in any meaningful way. I mean We're pretty daft to begin with when it comes any kind of invitations, platonic or otherwise. If I ever got one from anyone, I sure never noticed it....
damn... Kappy. I've watched you for a long time, never really said much. Love seeing everything you put out. I really do. I think I can definitely relate to this a bit. Only, for me, it really is about coming out of a relationship. 3 years, nearly, ended recently. The world just keeps going on. I won't go into too much detail, I'm sure you don't want that kind of thing on your page. Just the same, this picture is one I can think on. Yeah. Thank you for doing what you do, for drawing as well as you do. Thank you.
This is very meaningful and I think I can relate. From my experience with you I think you're a very deep person and you don't meet people like that everyday or at least ones that are willing to show it. If you're too careful you run the risk of isolating yourself, if you're too open someone could take advantage, but it's being able to express yourself openly while still maintaining boundaries that will allow you to show your generosity and compassionate spirit and attract those that will adore the true you.
You are also probably very intuitive about people right? Everyone puts up a front, it's that ego we project to the world, what we identify with and want people to see us as. This can be off-putting for an intuitive person because it seems there's no genuineness. Why would someone be that way when you are so accepting and giving, but people aren't immediately trusting. It can take work to truly get to know someone and then they can appreciate you because they have to let you in first before they see anything else. In passing people will not recognize you're inner beauty because they are protecting themselves first, and they expect the world to act the same way they do, as guarded. For someone like you it can seem like they won't even give you the chance to show them who you are before you are discounted. I would just say have patience with people, once they learn you're not going to judge them they will open up more to you and be able to appreciate the amazing person you are. Everyone wants to be accepted, but it can be hard to believe in our world today that someone would be so genuine and loving from the start without trying to get something out of it.
Sorry if I babbled. I've felt this way before and it can seem discouraging and lonely, but you are a beautiful person and there are others like you.
You are also probably very intuitive about people right? Everyone puts up a front, it's that ego we project to the world, what we identify with and want people to see us as. This can be off-putting for an intuitive person because it seems there's no genuineness. Why would someone be that way when you are so accepting and giving, but people aren't immediately trusting. It can take work to truly get to know someone and then they can appreciate you because they have to let you in first before they see anything else. In passing people will not recognize you're inner beauty because they are protecting themselves first, and they expect the world to act the same way they do, as guarded. For someone like you it can seem like they won't even give you the chance to show them who you are before you are discounted. I would just say have patience with people, once they learn you're not going to judge them they will open up more to you and be able to appreciate the amazing person you are. Everyone wants to be accepted, but it can be hard to believe in our world today that someone would be so genuine and loving from the start without trying to get something out of it.
Sorry if I babbled. I've felt this way before and it can seem discouraging and lonely, but you are a beautiful person and there are others like you.
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