Ok, so i got a fetlife cause a lot of the people in my circle of friends who are into that kind of stuff said it's a great way to meet people and learn about the community. Honestly, all I've learned is that 90% of the doms on their look like the "im gonna make you squart" guy from the meme, and all of the subs looked like fucking calvin klein models. Also, a lot of the doms on there also don't really respect what 'm looking for on that sight. I'm just looking to make friends and connections to a community that intrigues me and all they wanna do is whip me into submission. I know that on websites like that its to be expected but I would hope to god that if I said no thanks not really looking for that, that they would listen cause if they don't listen to me out of session what would happen if I used a safe word in session?
But it also isn't all that bad! A lot of the subs are very welcoming and love talking shit about doms like that too! And I've also had lots of great conversations with people in forums and the like about fetish related stuff and just plain geeky stuff. So honestly, join fetlife and hang out with the subs XD they will most likely be willing to help ease you into it, and avoid doms who have policies to a Mr. Gray cause those guys are trouble......