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12 years ago
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Is it possible to live most of your life with negative personality traits going unchecked because you never knew they were there and then curb those consiously? I want to try and just be more of a carefree type b personality like my oldest friend, but I don't know if That's something you can consiously work on, or it's just something you inherit.
Living with my friends has brought to light all these bad personality traits I posses that my folks never pointed out that I even had. To just know that I even have them or exercise them from time to time bothers me, and I want to know what the best way to change or alter them for the better would be. to just list a couple: I panic easily over minor things, which doesn't do any good in most everyday situations, and I throw my opinion into discussion when it isn't the time or place for it. There's more, but I'd say those are two that bug me off the top of my head.
Living with my friends has brought to light all these bad personality traits I posses that my folks never pointed out that I even had. To just know that I even have them or exercise them from time to time bothers me, and I want to know what the best way to change or alter them for the better would be. to just list a couple: I panic easily over minor things, which doesn't do any good in most everyday situations, and I throw my opinion into discussion when it isn't the time or place for it. There's more, but I'd say those are two that bug me off the top of my head.
SparktheDalmation
!sparkthedalmation
It is possible, Half my life was like that before I finally turned myself around. :3
Adders
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OP
Nice! I've been trying for four months and kind of struggling to do it. Honestly what helps me make changes I need to make is feedback.
SparktheDalmation
!sparkthedalmation
A lot starts with those you choose to associate with. I prefer to hang out with those who generally have a good head on their shoulders and have a positive outlook on their own lives; While I try to avoid those who pretty much have nothing better to do than complain about anything and everything, especially about things they have no control over.
Adders
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OP
I've definitely been the latter for a while now. My grandma got cancer in early september and I kept beating myself up over that when none of that was under my control. I've been there. Ive noticed with other events that the moment something doesn't go the way I'd like I tend to panic about it or just belittle myself because I made a mistake or what have you. These are all things I'd really love to alter about myself. No clue where I even picked it up, even. O.o
Adders
~adders
OP
It's like when things are good, I'm fuckin fantastic and the top of the world. The moment something goes wrong, that feeling does a 180 for some reason. I know I'm the one that's meant to manage my emotions, so it's up to me to really check the whole situation and chill. Problem is I think about it too much I guess. :p where my roommate may just not think about it and not worry, I keep myself awake wasting my time overthinking about some minor thing that I think is ruining my day.
SparktheDalmation
!sparkthedalmation
Yeah, that does seem to be a big problem; We all tend to overthink things more than necessary... I still sometimes catch myself doing it. :3
