I've been thinking...
13 years ago
General
about this topic for a while and was wondering what others had to say.
RosemaryTeatree and i got on the topic about people we respect. From this we started talking about how there are people, non-family members, who could make us feel absolutely crushed if they were to say "I'm disappointed in you". What I'd like to hear is:
Is there anyone like that for you (you don't have to say who)?
Why do you think these individuals affect you so (again, no need for details)?
Feel free to add any other thoughts as well. I post this meaning to be nothing more than a discussion of a topic that's been on my mind for a while and because I want to know what others think.
RosemaryTeatree and i got on the topic about people we respect. From this we started talking about how there are people, non-family members, who could make us feel absolutely crushed if they were to say "I'm disappointed in you". What I'd like to hear is:
Is there anyone like that for you (you don't have to say who)?
Why do you think these individuals affect you so (again, no need for details)?
Feel free to add any other thoughts as well. I post this meaning to be nothing more than a discussion of a topic that's been on my mind for a while and because I want to know what others think.
FA+

Because they are a part of my life.
I don't really care what the general population thinks about me and what i do. Screw them! But my friends and the people that share my life... Its important to me what they think.
mainly for the fact that they keep everything to themselves and only communicate with third party. if there is any trouble, worry, improvments, anything really its strictly third party help and not even the person who has been closest, i.e. me. not only do they keep things to themselves, but when there HAS to be a conversation i ALWAYS have to start the conversation, doesnt matter how or when, but i have to be the one to start talking to get a reply a few hours - a few days late.
in summary, keeping things bottled up, finding third-party source for help [meaning the whole "holding hands" thing], and saying they are sociable but cant bother messaging a simple "hi" to start a conversation. Those and maybe a bit more may disappointment a lot...
"Why do you think these individuals affect you so (again, no need for details)?" I always strive to be & give my best! And for someone I care for & respect to say that I have disappointed them sends a message to me saying "You're best is not good enough". It's a crushing blow to me.
BUT, I will say, after I have my personal pity party, I try to evaluate WHY I disappointed them so that I can improve.